I am a newlywed. My husband and I have been married almost 6 months. This is my first marriage this is his second. We are both in our early thirties. Pretty set in our ways but I feel we have adapted to that well. We both have successful, fulfilling careers that we both enjoy.
Now, my husband has 2 children from his first marriage. I was prepared to be a stepmom. Me and the boys get along wonderful. I love them and they love me.
The problem I am afraid is me. I know my husband does love me very much but I just feel like I am at the bottom of his totem pole so to speak. I feel like after the boys, work, friends, etc. there is little time left for me and my needs. When I type this it sounds so petty and shallow and selfish it just kills me. But I just desperately want my husband to notice me and spend time with me, JUST me. We never go on dates. Any trip we go on has to involve the kids or our group of friends. I've told him my desire for date nights and stuff and he agrees but we never do it. I feel like he has no interest in my job or my day to day stuff.
We never had a honeymoon and when I mention even a weekend getaway its not an option I feel like. I feel so selfish and self-absorbed. I just want to feel like I matter. What is wrong with me? Is this normal? I am honestly wondering if it was a mistake to marry.
Now, my husband has 2 children from his first marriage. I was prepared to be a stepmom. Me and the boys get along wonderful. I love them and they love me.
The problem I am afraid is me. I know my husband does love me very much but I just feel like I am at the bottom of his totem pole so to speak. I feel like after the boys, work, friends, etc. there is little time left for me and my needs. When I type this it sounds so petty and shallow and selfish it just kills me. But I just desperately want my husband to notice me and spend time with me, JUST me. We never go on dates. Any trip we go on has to involve the kids or our group of friends. I've told him my desire for date nights and stuff and he agrees but we never do it. I feel like he has no interest in my job or my day to day stuff.
We never had a honeymoon and when I mention even a weekend getaway its not an option I feel like. I feel so selfish and self-absorbed. I just want to feel like I matter. What is wrong with me? Is this normal? I am honestly wondering if it was a mistake to marry.
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