My wife and I have been very happily married for about 2.5 years. She is my world and I love her more than I thought possible to love another person.
About a year ago I was given an awesome opportunity to transfer to Canada in my job for a two year term. I discussed this with my wife and she was very excited by the opportunity and said we should take it. As a part of the offer, my workplace offered her a position within the company as well, so for two years we are working together. We have now spent almost a year in Canada and things are going really well. We are getting to see a lot of North America which would have been difficult to do.
The issue is that my boss, who I report to back home, is the biggest bully I have come across. It was the CEO of the company that offered me this position as he trusts my ability, but my direct boss is a micromanaging bully. So much so that in the 10 months we have been here, he has travelled to Canada about 5 times to check on me. My wife can't stand the guy and has told me that I have to put my foot down with him and tell him not to come. I have spoken to him many times and told him that he doesn't need to come, but he just comes anyway. I just found out this morning that he is coming again in about weeks time. When I told my wife, she flipped out again and is angry with me. Every time this guys name is mentioned, I am in the line of fire. It is really difficult as I have to report to him and if he wants to come, he is still my boss, so I have to deal with it. My wife on the other hand thinks that I should tell him to butt out and let me run things.
I really don't know what to do as anything I say will just anger her more in this regard. I really don't like the guy either, but I have to deal with him. I keep my wife and him away from each other as much as I can, but it is really difficult to manage.
I'm tired of having the same fight about this guy. I know my wife doesn't like seeing me getting bullied, but in saying that it has improved a lot over the course of a year as I have repeatedly told him what is not acceptable.
We have a bit more than a year to go before we move back home which will remove my wife from this company and out of his presence, but in the mean time I have to deal with this. I just don't know how.
About a year ago I was given an awesome opportunity to transfer to Canada in my job for a two year term. I discussed this with my wife and she was very excited by the opportunity and said we should take it. As a part of the offer, my workplace offered her a position within the company as well, so for two years we are working together. We have now spent almost a year in Canada and things are going really well. We are getting to see a lot of North America which would have been difficult to do.
The issue is that my boss, who I report to back home, is the biggest bully I have come across. It was the CEO of the company that offered me this position as he trusts my ability, but my direct boss is a micromanaging bully. So much so that in the 10 months we have been here, he has travelled to Canada about 5 times to check on me. My wife can't stand the guy and has told me that I have to put my foot down with him and tell him not to come. I have spoken to him many times and told him that he doesn't need to come, but he just comes anyway. I just found out this morning that he is coming again in about weeks time. When I told my wife, she flipped out again and is angry with me. Every time this guys name is mentioned, I am in the line of fire. It is really difficult as I have to report to him and if he wants to come, he is still my boss, so I have to deal with it. My wife on the other hand thinks that I should tell him to butt out and let me run things.
I really don't know what to do as anything I say will just anger her more in this regard. I really don't like the guy either, but I have to deal with him. I keep my wife and him away from each other as much as I can, but it is really difficult to manage.
I'm tired of having the same fight about this guy. I know my wife doesn't like seeing me getting bullied, but in saying that it has improved a lot over the course of a year as I have repeatedly told him what is not acceptable.
We have a bit more than a year to go before we move back home which will remove my wife from this company and out of his presence, but in the mean time I have to deal with this. I just don't know how.
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