Always forgotten about

Hi I have been married for only five months and from the day my husband put the ring on my finger he seems to have given up on everything. To be honest I have always been the one who has led our relationship on as he is very laid back and quite shy. I was the first girlfriend that he had ever had and he is from a family of all boys and hadn't had much contact with girls in a romantic way. For the three years before we got married it was mostly at my suggestion that we did things such as meeting parents, moving in together etc. Since we have been married though it's like he has forgotten he has a wife. Everyone has things that cross the line don't they? You know the things that just make you upset and you ask the person not to do because it would upset you? Well he doesn't seem to understand about these things. On his bachelor party I said he could do whatever he wanted but please no strippers and he went on stage and had naked women dance all over him. I can understand that he went to strippers as it was his bachelor party but when I asked why he went he said he didn't want to disappoint his friends and that was the most upsetting part. There have been other incidents where he has disappointed me as opposed to disappoint a friend or family member. I feel like he has this opinion of me that I can just get on with it and I'll be fine. Yesterday he had plans to go out after work, which was fine because I don't mind him going out. I'd had an awful day in work with a customer spitting on my top, which I'd rang him and told him about. He had been busy with work so I rang quickly on his lunch hour. I was upset about work. Who wouldn't be? He still didn't give me a quick txt after work to see how I was or to call me quickly and his excuse was that he forgot. That sums us up really. He forgets about me and he relies on me to do everything and I am unsure of how to turn this around. How do you stop being an enabler? How do you stop running 90% and letting your partner do the 10%?

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