| My Wife and I have been together for 10 years married for 5 we have 2 young children and both work a full time job, our son is 5 and our daughter 4 we are both devoted parents. Some of you may say you can see the issue coming "that we don't make time for each other" yet I have made concerted efforts on numerous and lengthy occasions in the past without any change in her behaviour. The problem is this- I no longer get sexually aroused by her as she has put on weight since having children, I have trouble communicating this to her as she is very sensitive to the subject (we had some issues on how she dressed before this) it got to a point where I refused sex unless she lost weight and after several months she started to do so, our sex life resumed in Easter but has now stopped again as the weight has all come back, this time not through my choice but I cannot get aroused by her (I do not have rectile problems). The vicious circle is that she has always said I will look good for you if you make changes for me yet I have changed for her sooo much with no result (she will admit I have made these changes) the only time I get any result is with negatives like refusing sex. so I say I have made changes why should I make more without seeing any from you, to which she say she wants more. I do not want to leave her and my children, she says the same but sometimes she can be cruel and unkind to me which makes living together very hard, she now says she wants her own bed and last night slept in another room. I don't know what to do, as I still love her but I don't enjoy sex with her thinking off other people ( it feels like a duty) and I am not aroused by her, yet she is understandably hurt by this but refuses to take any action to rectify it. | |||
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