My in-laws, especially my MIL, are killing my marriage. They know no boundaries and refuse to ever admit they are wrong. My MIL constantly makes passive aggressive digs at me and they get worse if I don?t react. My wife & I have been married two years and were together four years before marriage. My wife is 36 years old and I am 42. We have a one year old.
I have spoken to my wife and asked her to set boundaries with her family. She refuses to do so and said she will ?never pick me over her family?. When her 22 year old brother moved out of his parents? home, I gave him approx. $3,000 of extra furniture. The parents rented a truck and came with their son to get the furniture. They took the furniture and the parents never said thank you. I confronted my wife about it and she said I was being ridiculous.
Before that, I got my 22 year old BIL a job at my friend?s restaurant. He worked there for about 18 months and made good money despite doing a mediocre job. Last week my friend who owns the restaurant got a letter from my in-laws attorney threatening legal action against him over my BIL W-2. Long story short, the BIL lied to his parents saying he never made any money so they would continue to support him. My MIL refuses to say they did anything wrong and won?t admit her son could be lying and they all say he is ?just a kid?. My FIL called to try to smooth things over with me but I have found out that he lied to me about his involvement in this. Through all this, my in-laws, wife and her older brother have said that the younger brother is ?just a kid?. Also, my mother passed away three months ago. My wife told me that I am just mad about my mother and jealous because her mother was able to beat her disease but my mother couldn?t beat hers.
My wife continues to defend her family though she hasn?t spoken to them a lot. She says that since she is not speaking to them every day, she is standing up to them. Although, she spent Sunday at their house for five hours.
The worse thing is that my MIL has told people that I am jealous of my daughter and wish we didn?t have her.
I think I need to divorce because I feel no respect form the family or my wife. I don?t think it will ever change. I worry about my daughter. Not sure I can go with to seeing her everyday. Any advice is appreciated!
I have spoken to my wife and asked her to set boundaries with her family. She refuses to do so and said she will ?never pick me over her family?. When her 22 year old brother moved out of his parents? home, I gave him approx. $3,000 of extra furniture. The parents rented a truck and came with their son to get the furniture. They took the furniture and the parents never said thank you. I confronted my wife about it and she said I was being ridiculous.
Before that, I got my 22 year old BIL a job at my friend?s restaurant. He worked there for about 18 months and made good money despite doing a mediocre job. Last week my friend who owns the restaurant got a letter from my in-laws attorney threatening legal action against him over my BIL W-2. Long story short, the BIL lied to his parents saying he never made any money so they would continue to support him. My MIL refuses to say they did anything wrong and won?t admit her son could be lying and they all say he is ?just a kid?. My FIL called to try to smooth things over with me but I have found out that he lied to me about his involvement in this. Through all this, my in-laws, wife and her older brother have said that the younger brother is ?just a kid?. Also, my mother passed away three months ago. My wife told me that I am just mad about my mother and jealous because her mother was able to beat her disease but my mother couldn?t beat hers.
My wife continues to defend her family though she hasn?t spoken to them a lot. She says that since she is not speaking to them every day, she is standing up to them. Although, she spent Sunday at their house for five hours.
The worse thing is that my MIL has told people that I am jealous of my daughter and wish we didn?t have her.
I think I need to divorce because I feel no respect form the family or my wife. I don?t think it will ever change. I worry about my daughter. Not sure I can go with to seeing her everyday. Any advice is appreciated!
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