Hi, I'm new to this forum and I would really appreciate some advise, and support.
My husband and I have been married for 5 years, been together for 9 years.
The biggest problem in my marriage is the emotional abuse from husband towards me. It's come to a stage where I've learnt to just keep my mouth shut. If I say anything about his drinking, or going out, it results in a shouting and screaming session which will go on for days. In the end I'm the one who has to apologise as it is always my fault. He never says sorry! During these intense arguments he will belittle me, call me horrible names, and will actually have me convinced how terrible I am. In his eyes all I do is complain and moan all the time. We don't communicate, what he says goes. And heaven forbid I don't agree or have something to say.
I've tried to stand up for myself, but he is very controlling and will refuse it. He will continue to shout and scream at me until I bow down and give in.
I have time and time again asked to go to marriage counselling but he refuses, he says there is nothing wrong in our marriage (as long as I shut up and do as I'm told). Both children, I'm raising on my own. He doesn't contribute financially at all. He doesn't help me with kids either. But he certainly knows how to discipline them.
I'm a Christian and go to church every Sunday, so divorce is out of the question. I just want to know how to fix my marriage. I'm so unhappy, surely there is more to a marriage then shutting up and doing as you are told?
My husband and I have been married for 5 years, been together for 9 years.
The biggest problem in my marriage is the emotional abuse from husband towards me. It's come to a stage where I've learnt to just keep my mouth shut. If I say anything about his drinking, or going out, it results in a shouting and screaming session which will go on for days. In the end I'm the one who has to apologise as it is always my fault. He never says sorry! During these intense arguments he will belittle me, call me horrible names, and will actually have me convinced how terrible I am. In his eyes all I do is complain and moan all the time. We don't communicate, what he says goes. And heaven forbid I don't agree or have something to say.
I've tried to stand up for myself, but he is very controlling and will refuse it. He will continue to shout and scream at me until I bow down and give in.
I have time and time again asked to go to marriage counselling but he refuses, he says there is nothing wrong in our marriage (as long as I shut up and do as I'm told). Both children, I'm raising on my own. He doesn't contribute financially at all. He doesn't help me with kids either. But he certainly knows how to discipline them.
I'm a Christian and go to church every Sunday, so divorce is out of the question. I just want to know how to fix my marriage. I'm so unhappy, surely there is more to a marriage then shutting up and doing as you are told?
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