Hello All,
New to this site and unsure of where to turn. Hopefully someone can provide me with some insightful perspective. Here it goes...
I am a dad of a five year old son, two year old daughter, and have been with my wife for 10 years. August of last year my wife told me she was done. She had been unhappy for two years and simply didn't want to be married any longer. Complete shock to me, our friends, and family. She kept it pretty well hidden. Tried to work on it through counseling and such, but she said it was too late and she doesn't feel the same way about me anymore. She also alluded to be confused about her sexual identity. She said she isn't sure if she is a lesbian since she has never been with a woman.
Fast forward to now. She moved in with a friend of hers a week ago who is openly gay. They are posting on social media calling each other babe, saying I love you, ect. This is something new, that wasn't present up until recently. My children stay with her part of the week and my son mentions them sleeping in the same bed.
I know I should only focus on what I can control, but there are so many things here that I'm having issues with. For starters, we are going through the divorce process but we aren't divorced yet. If she is going to be parading around with another relationship, why not do it discretely? Secondly, our children are confused and do not understand why mom no longer does things with dad. My daughter seems to be too young to understand, but my son still thinks of us as husband and wife. He simply thinks she moved because she is mad, his words not mine. We officially started the divorce process in December after Christmas. After such a long relationship, shouldn't one hold off not only for their own sake but for their kids? Lastly, I feel like I have been bamboozled and who I fell in love with was simply a facade, not who she truly is.
This feeling of helplessness is horrible. I miss my relationship with her. I'm saddened to see my kids grow up in a broken home. Most of all, I'm sad there is nothing I can do to win her back. Anyone who has experienced sometime similar have words of wisdom or ways to cope?
Side note, I'm already seeking weekly personal counseling. Today just seems to be worse than others.
New to this site and unsure of where to turn. Hopefully someone can provide me with some insightful perspective. Here it goes...
I am a dad of a five year old son, two year old daughter, and have been with my wife for 10 years. August of last year my wife told me she was done. She had been unhappy for two years and simply didn't want to be married any longer. Complete shock to me, our friends, and family. She kept it pretty well hidden. Tried to work on it through counseling and such, but she said it was too late and she doesn't feel the same way about me anymore. She also alluded to be confused about her sexual identity. She said she isn't sure if she is a lesbian since she has never been with a woman.
Fast forward to now. She moved in with a friend of hers a week ago who is openly gay. They are posting on social media calling each other babe, saying I love you, ect. This is something new, that wasn't present up until recently. My children stay with her part of the week and my son mentions them sleeping in the same bed.
I know I should only focus on what I can control, but there are so many things here that I'm having issues with. For starters, we are going through the divorce process but we aren't divorced yet. If she is going to be parading around with another relationship, why not do it discretely? Secondly, our children are confused and do not understand why mom no longer does things with dad. My daughter seems to be too young to understand, but my son still thinks of us as husband and wife. He simply thinks she moved because she is mad, his words not mine. We officially started the divorce process in December after Christmas. After such a long relationship, shouldn't one hold off not only for their own sake but for their kids? Lastly, I feel like I have been bamboozled and who I fell in love with was simply a facade, not who she truly is.
This feeling of helplessness is horrible. I miss my relationship with her. I'm saddened to see my kids grow up in a broken home. Most of all, I'm sad there is nothing I can do to win her back. Anyone who has experienced sometime similar have words of wisdom or ways to cope?
Side note, I'm already seeking weekly personal counseling. Today just seems to be worse than others.
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