I am starting a new thread, on my tattered marriage. I am at the end of my rope, and today couldn't see straight and thought I would just end it. I had chest and head pains, but trying to relax away from everything.
God knows I tried so hard to put my life, my heart & soul into my relationship and family.
Things were quiet for a little while, and I was tripping over myself to be all things to my wife, and kids. Every night she came back to bed, I hugged, carressed and cuddled her.
I cannot understand HOW my wife can be so cruel and inhumane to me to make up lies and turn my kids against me. And when they come to me, she tells them to get away.
Yes, today, I sat in the corner of my table actually helping do the kids projects. My daughter now already hearing things from a long time ago, out of nowhere to say that "dad said this and that about you (the toxic MIL who lives with us)", and in reality I never said that, in fact what MIL said about me, but doesn't matter. That's all it took to start war. My wife completely freaked out on me, wishing my death, and saying that I abuse her so the kids and her mom hear this.
So, I left the house in a huff, emotional breakdown, but didn't want the kids to see this, but they did. I left so it wouldn't get worse, and then after she precipitated me leaving and verbally harassing me, says that I'M MENTAL, and kids have a mental father who is abusive.
I wish a 1000 people could be in my home to watch all this, and they would know this is the FARTHEST thing from any truth, and that my wife, when she gets angry, is an hysterical, evil liar, who takes pleasure in my pain.
I endured this for probably two years, with ups and downs, but was quiet for a while. I have ignored all the 24/7 criticism of the MIL, and mumbling under her breath to me. And tried to show my wife how things can be good. We all went out to eat dinner yesterday (a rare treat in my home), minus the MIL, and things were great.
Today, it was ALL my wife, although yesterday, my daughter being mad I didn't take the family dog yesterday said hurtful words I don't have a daddy, and gave great pleasure to my MIL to hear that, as she hugged her. Today, anyway, my daughter was sorry, but the point is, I sit here for the SAKE OF MY KIDS, and ALSO TO HELP MY WIFE, in what I know is a very UPSIDE DOWN environment, but keep to myself and try to make positive - I am only human and got disgusted my wife started cursing me and cursing me out in front of the kids, I melted down, and ran out.
She makes these existential threats that I should be in jail, etc. etc. And I feel everyday my LOVE and DEDICATION and LOYALTY is all for nothing. Wouldn't that upset anyone, and probably drive them mad.
She twists everything I have to say, and now bc of my "breakdown" she uses this against me and as an excuse to hate me further.
All I ever wanted was the best for my wife and kids, and not just words but real action in helping, doing, solving, fixing, everything a husband and father is supposed to do and MORE.
It's getting to the point the kids already know ALL the buttons and words to say to MIL and WIFE, that I am toast. Not an ounce of respect as a human being, let alone the father and husband that do anything.
I feel so alone, and couldn't bring myself to call anyone. I called a long-distance friend, but he wasn't available.
I feel that my health is deteriorating. There's no one in our lives that can set her straight. Her father (my FIL) knows all this, but doesn't do a thing.
MY wife has trust issues, and has MAJOR projection issues and control issues. I need help, or i fear my kids will have no father. Today I am an emotional wreck. I'm just writing this, so I know there's someone out there who hears me. Thx
God knows I tried so hard to put my life, my heart & soul into my relationship and family.
Things were quiet for a little while, and I was tripping over myself to be all things to my wife, and kids. Every night she came back to bed, I hugged, carressed and cuddled her.
I cannot understand HOW my wife can be so cruel and inhumane to me to make up lies and turn my kids against me. And when they come to me, she tells them to get away.
Yes, today, I sat in the corner of my table actually helping do the kids projects. My daughter now already hearing things from a long time ago, out of nowhere to say that "dad said this and that about you (the toxic MIL who lives with us)", and in reality I never said that, in fact what MIL said about me, but doesn't matter. That's all it took to start war. My wife completely freaked out on me, wishing my death, and saying that I abuse her so the kids and her mom hear this.
So, I left the house in a huff, emotional breakdown, but didn't want the kids to see this, but they did. I left so it wouldn't get worse, and then after she precipitated me leaving and verbally harassing me, says that I'M MENTAL, and kids have a mental father who is abusive.
I wish a 1000 people could be in my home to watch all this, and they would know this is the FARTHEST thing from any truth, and that my wife, when she gets angry, is an hysterical, evil liar, who takes pleasure in my pain.
I endured this for probably two years, with ups and downs, but was quiet for a while. I have ignored all the 24/7 criticism of the MIL, and mumbling under her breath to me. And tried to show my wife how things can be good. We all went out to eat dinner yesterday (a rare treat in my home), minus the MIL, and things were great.
Today, it was ALL my wife, although yesterday, my daughter being mad I didn't take the family dog yesterday said hurtful words I don't have a daddy, and gave great pleasure to my MIL to hear that, as she hugged her. Today, anyway, my daughter was sorry, but the point is, I sit here for the SAKE OF MY KIDS, and ALSO TO HELP MY WIFE, in what I know is a very UPSIDE DOWN environment, but keep to myself and try to make positive - I am only human and got disgusted my wife started cursing me and cursing me out in front of the kids, I melted down, and ran out.
She makes these existential threats that I should be in jail, etc. etc. And I feel everyday my LOVE and DEDICATION and LOYALTY is all for nothing. Wouldn't that upset anyone, and probably drive them mad.
She twists everything I have to say, and now bc of my "breakdown" she uses this against me and as an excuse to hate me further.
All I ever wanted was the best for my wife and kids, and not just words but real action in helping, doing, solving, fixing, everything a husband and father is supposed to do and MORE.
It's getting to the point the kids already know ALL the buttons and words to say to MIL and WIFE, that I am toast. Not an ounce of respect as a human being, let alone the father and husband that do anything.
I feel so alone, and couldn't bring myself to call anyone. I called a long-distance friend, but he wasn't available.
I feel that my health is deteriorating. There's no one in our lives that can set her straight. Her father (my FIL) knows all this, but doesn't do a thing.
MY wife has trust issues, and has MAJOR projection issues and control issues. I need help, or i fear my kids will have no father. Today I am an emotional wreck. I'm just writing this, so I know there's someone out there who hears me. Thx
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