I've been dating a guy for a couple of months. He seems a lovely person, but I was unsure of where we stood. Finally broached it during a (pretty drunken) conversation. I asked him if he was seeing any other girls other than me. He said no and it'd feel wrong to. I asked him if we were more than friends with benefits, he said yes. He then went on to say he'd only ever had one serious relationship in his life (he's 29) and he's been single for 3 years. He then went on to say that he hadn't been looking for a relationship when he met me, but we'd hit it off. He then started talking about how he wasn't sure he believed in soulmates/the one and said he wasn't sure he was the kind of person it applied to. I asked him if he had a problem with me being with other men (I haven't been whilst I've been with him & don't intend to for now at least) and he said if I met someone who could give me that kind of relationship (a soul mate type relationship) he wouldn't want to stan d in the way of my happiness. He also mentioned my age (I'm 22) saying that he didn't want me to feel 'stuck' with him at my age. He finished by saying he liked me a lot though and that what we have means something. But he also said that he felt like a bastard for saying the other stuff to me (about not being after a serious relationship.)
I was a bit taken aback by the conversation - I wanted to confirm that I was more than sex & a friend to him, but didn't really know where he was going with the soulmate talk since 2 months into dating someone the idea of it being a serious commitment wouldn't have even crossed my mind. I don't really feel like I got much clarity on the issue - I'm not intending on having a long term relationship since I'm leaving our city in six months, but I wanted to know that I was more than a lay (he said he had never thought of me as that) and what he saw it as.
The only reason I decided to ask him is because when we were chatting about something he said 'oh, yeah, my other girlfriends used to say that,' which seemed to implicitly imply he thought of me as a girlfriend.
Basically I'm confused and not sure what to think - how would you read his response?
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