Hey everyone, first time poster here,
I stumbled upon this website maybe an hour ago and have read through a few threads and thought this would be a good place to get some advice.
As you can see by the title of my thread I have been married for a year and two months in a sexless marriage.
Me and my wife met at our previous job and fell in love. She was a 28 year old virgin. Why she was still a virgin I am not sure but thought it was for religious reasons or really just didn't care that much at the time.
As you can expect with her being a virgin the initial sex was painful for her but since she was a virgin I thought this was normal and nothing to worry about.
I guess I should also mention shes from Nepal and a Hindu while I am an American. So there is a cultural difference though I don't think this has anything to do with her being a virgin.
Well over the time of our dating I also noticed other things in the sex department that she did oddly or did not like. For example, in order for her to cum she gets on top of me and uses the shaft of my penis to rub up and down on her clit until she gets off. Kind of like shes humping me. I thought this was strange as I have never been with a girl who gets off this way. As far as oral intercourse goes she does not like me to go down on her let alone touch her down there with anything, not even my penis. Again I attributed all of this to her being a virgin and having very little sex experience and thought overtime she would get into the groove of the standard intercourse and foreplay.
Well here we our over a year into our marriage and nothing has changed. She still cums the same way, she still doesn't like oral, finger foreplay and still has pain during sex.
She doesn't open her legs much to let me in and when I go in she allows it very slowy and says it feels like its burning and usually I can only be in for maybe 3 or 4 minutes before she makes me take it out saying it hurts too much. Its been like this for months.
As you can imagine I have looked on the internet for what may cause this and it sounds like vaginismus to me but I am no doctor.
I would really like to get this resolved cause sex is very important to me in a marriage and have talked to my wife numerous times about this and she always says she will try and get better but that is as far as it goes.
I see no effort on her part to resolve the problem. She never initiates sex and gets tired of me asking about it. I am sure she doesn't talk to her friends about this cause she is embarased but I am becoming very frustrated about her lack of effort to fix our sex life.
Any ideas on how I should approach her on fixing this issue? I think we need sex therapy personally cause everytime I try and talk to her about this she shuts down and gets really mad and just doesnt want to talk about it.
Any ideas are appreciated.
I stumbled upon this website maybe an hour ago and have read through a few threads and thought this would be a good place to get some advice.
As you can see by the title of my thread I have been married for a year and two months in a sexless marriage.
Me and my wife met at our previous job and fell in love. She was a 28 year old virgin. Why she was still a virgin I am not sure but thought it was for religious reasons or really just didn't care that much at the time.
As you can expect with her being a virgin the initial sex was painful for her but since she was a virgin I thought this was normal and nothing to worry about.
I guess I should also mention shes from Nepal and a Hindu while I am an American. So there is a cultural difference though I don't think this has anything to do with her being a virgin.
Well over the time of our dating I also noticed other things in the sex department that she did oddly or did not like. For example, in order for her to cum she gets on top of me and uses the shaft of my penis to rub up and down on her clit until she gets off. Kind of like shes humping me. I thought this was strange as I have never been with a girl who gets off this way. As far as oral intercourse goes she does not like me to go down on her let alone touch her down there with anything, not even my penis. Again I attributed all of this to her being a virgin and having very little sex experience and thought overtime she would get into the groove of the standard intercourse and foreplay.
Well here we our over a year into our marriage and nothing has changed. She still cums the same way, she still doesn't like oral, finger foreplay and still has pain during sex.
She doesn't open her legs much to let me in and when I go in she allows it very slowy and says it feels like its burning and usually I can only be in for maybe 3 or 4 minutes before she makes me take it out saying it hurts too much. Its been like this for months.
As you can imagine I have looked on the internet for what may cause this and it sounds like vaginismus to me but I am no doctor.
I would really like to get this resolved cause sex is very important to me in a marriage and have talked to my wife numerous times about this and she always says she will try and get better but that is as far as it goes.
I see no effort on her part to resolve the problem. She never initiates sex and gets tired of me asking about it. I am sure she doesn't talk to her friends about this cause she is embarased but I am becoming very frustrated about her lack of effort to fix our sex life.
Any ideas on how I should approach her on fixing this issue? I think we need sex therapy personally cause everytime I try and talk to her about this she shuts down and gets really mad and just doesnt want to talk about it.
Any ideas are appreciated.
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