Having been through some challenges in my otherwise happy marriage, there is no doubt there were times when TALKING was doing more harm than good.
ACTION saved the say. We would reach an impasse on a matter and the stubborn pride that goes our feisty natures was very destructive.
When we agree to table a matter and make the best of what was still intact, by DOING instead of TALKING we ...
1. Made some nice memories
2. Created good will
3. Calmed our emotions
1,2 and 3 allowed us to revisit the impasse with a healthier, more helpful mindset working together instead of against each other.
The ACTIONS I speak of are ...
1. Date night
2. Going for a walk without issue talk
3. Hugs and kisses and holding hands and snuggling
4. Road trip / shopping trip
5. Making the bed together (or messing it up LOL)
Another thing that helps is to put "relationship" talk aside and just have a pleasant conversation about less emotionally charged subjects mixed with some flirting / humor
There have been plenty of times my wife and I were at a very challenging place in our relationship. When we STOPPED TALKING about it by letting it rest while we built up some needed good will and nice memories, it got us thru it and reminded us why we work so hard on those tough issues because we were still making memories.
Never for get, TALKING is not always the answer to every situation. Sometimes LESS TALK MORE ACTION is the best approach to restore the calm needed to get thru a storm
ACTION saved the say. We would reach an impasse on a matter and the stubborn pride that goes our feisty natures was very destructive.
When we agree to table a matter and make the best of what was still intact, by DOING instead of TALKING we ...
1. Made some nice memories
2. Created good will
3. Calmed our emotions
1,2 and 3 allowed us to revisit the impasse with a healthier, more helpful mindset working together instead of against each other.
The ACTIONS I speak of are ...
1. Date night
2. Going for a walk without issue talk
3. Hugs and kisses and holding hands and snuggling
4. Road trip / shopping trip
5. Making the bed together (or messing it up LOL)
Another thing that helps is to put "relationship" talk aside and just have a pleasant conversation about less emotionally charged subjects mixed with some flirting / humor
There have been plenty of times my wife and I were at a very challenging place in our relationship. When we STOPPED TALKING about it by letting it rest while we built up some needed good will and nice memories, it got us thru it and reminded us why we work so hard on those tough issues because we were still making memories.
Never for get, TALKING is not always the answer to every situation. Sometimes LESS TALK MORE ACTION is the best approach to restore the calm needed to get thru a storm
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