Well, for anyone who has followed my story, my divorce was final January 31. My ex still doesn't understand why I left...even after the false report to Children's Services, the allegations of phone bugging, etc., she still doesn't get it. After SHE filed a divorce petition against me, she said this when the magistrate asked her if she believed that we were incompatible: "I don't know..." She then pointed at me and said, "This was all his idea...."
But in my post divorce world, I only care about being the best Daddy I know how to be for my 5-year old son. I don't really care if she ever gets it.
Tonight, I called my son from the road. He chatted happily with me about a school bus he had made for me out of Legos. He then said he made it for me so I could ride to school. That I needed to go to school and learn how to quit making bad choices. He said he was going to write about how not to make bad choices in a book for me to read.
My ex jumped on the line about that time and told me our son has been talking about me hurting his feelings on a recent phone call. She said maybe I could talk things over with him on my next visitation day.
For the life of me, I don't recall doing anything that bad. My son will frequently get mad at me over some misunderstanding and abruptly hang up on me. But I always maintain a calm voice with him, even when he's upset with me. It irked me a little that she was putting me on the defensive like that in front of him. She seems to be doing that more these days. I can't quite put my finger on it, because she always appears to be just trying to help me understand his angst. But I'm not getting a very positive vibe. On the other hand, I don't want to discount my son's hurt, either.
Am I blowing this out of proportion, or was that conversation really messed up?
But in my post divorce world, I only care about being the best Daddy I know how to be for my 5-year old son. I don't really care if she ever gets it.
Tonight, I called my son from the road. He chatted happily with me about a school bus he had made for me out of Legos. He then said he made it for me so I could ride to school. That I needed to go to school and learn how to quit making bad choices. He said he was going to write about how not to make bad choices in a book for me to read.
My ex jumped on the line about that time and told me our son has been talking about me hurting his feelings on a recent phone call. She said maybe I could talk things over with him on my next visitation day.
For the life of me, I don't recall doing anything that bad. My son will frequently get mad at me over some misunderstanding and abruptly hang up on me. But I always maintain a calm voice with him, even when he's upset with me. It irked me a little that she was putting me on the defensive like that in front of him. She seems to be doing that more these days. I can't quite put my finger on it, because she always appears to be just trying to help me understand his angst. But I'm not getting a very positive vibe. On the other hand, I don't want to discount my son's hurt, either.
Am I blowing this out of proportion, or was that conversation really messed up?
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