How has having a facebook affected your marriage?
After a couple issues with this I have gradually shared more of my private messages with friends to my husband. Things I wrote to guy friends of mine and what they would say back. These were friends I had since high school and who don't even live in the same state as us, but they still say hello and since we do live in a tourist city most of them will make remarks about maybe coming to visit. My husband feels uncomfortable with the way they talk to me.
Example: while talking about coming to visit and getting food and drinks he mentions if i don't want to drive i can leave my car at his hotel, i say if my H is working I'll leave it with him, then he offers we could always take a taxi if we drink.
^^^This was apparently suggestive. In my head he was offering me alternatives so I didn't have to drive, leave it at hotel and we'll get a different ride to the strip. made sense to me, i didn't think my old friend was hitting on me at all. besides im married and hes dating someone. ***HE READ ALL MESSAGES WHILE I WAS TALKING TO THEM AND HAS ALWAYS BEEN ABLE TO READ MY MESSAGES***
So many argumentative hours later I went through and deleted every friend of mine that was male just to keep this argument from coming up ALL THE TIME. I'm sick of it. Realizing shortly after, if I can't use this to keep up with my old friends then WTF is the point of having this? If everything I say or post can be misinterpreted and become a fight about NOTHING then why have it?!
Right now I'm pretty much DONE with having it. During this argument about facebook he starts looking for opinions about whether or not couples should share passwords....
Should couples share passwords. In my opinion this is a horrible idea because ANYTHING spoken, written or said a year ago suddenly becomes this relevant conspiracy plot against them. Sure it isn't snooping because I gave you the password, but your mindset IS snooping for something, and it will find it whether it exists or not, even in a "hello :]" you could see something.
so should couples share EVERYTHING especially when one is showing insecurity already? or would it just be cause for more problems.
After a couple issues with this I have gradually shared more of my private messages with friends to my husband. Things I wrote to guy friends of mine and what they would say back. These were friends I had since high school and who don't even live in the same state as us, but they still say hello and since we do live in a tourist city most of them will make remarks about maybe coming to visit. My husband feels uncomfortable with the way they talk to me.
Example: while talking about coming to visit and getting food and drinks he mentions if i don't want to drive i can leave my car at his hotel, i say if my H is working I'll leave it with him, then he offers we could always take a taxi if we drink.
^^^This was apparently suggestive. In my head he was offering me alternatives so I didn't have to drive, leave it at hotel and we'll get a different ride to the strip. made sense to me, i didn't think my old friend was hitting on me at all. besides im married and hes dating someone. ***HE READ ALL MESSAGES WHILE I WAS TALKING TO THEM AND HAS ALWAYS BEEN ABLE TO READ MY MESSAGES***
So many argumentative hours later I went through and deleted every friend of mine that was male just to keep this argument from coming up ALL THE TIME. I'm sick of it. Realizing shortly after, if I can't use this to keep up with my old friends then WTF is the point of having this? If everything I say or post can be misinterpreted and become a fight about NOTHING then why have it?!
Right now I'm pretty much DONE with having it. During this argument about facebook he starts looking for opinions about whether or not couples should share passwords....
Should couples share passwords. In my opinion this is a horrible idea because ANYTHING spoken, written or said a year ago suddenly becomes this relevant conspiracy plot against them. Sure it isn't snooping because I gave you the password, but your mindset IS snooping for something, and it will find it whether it exists or not, even in a "hello :]" you could see something.
so should couples share EVERYTHING especially when one is showing insecurity already? or would it just be cause for more problems.
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