Curious about this, wanted to get some feedback. I noticed many posters in this thread talk about different ways (including ultimatums) to improve their sex lives with their significant others. Say this works and you increase the frequency. What I struggle with is if this is really satisfying in the long run? In my opinion, it's not only about the sex, it's about you wanting the other person to desire you and actually want to have sex with you. If the other person is only having sex with you because they are afraid you may leave them or some other reason, it defeats the purpose no? I'd like to hear some feedback on this cause I see these types of posts time and time again.
Personally, I initiate way more than i have in the past and the frequency is much improved (2-3x per week). I am rarely turned down. However, I can't help but feel something is missing and can't put my finger on it. While I don't get denied, and it appears she does enjoy it after a while (seems to orgasm most times), I still don't feel satisfied. Not once does she initiate on her own and while I respect that she may be trying to improve things and do it to meet my emotional need for sex, I don't feel she desires sex or me for that matter and that is why it just doesn't feel right sometimes. I can see in her face that she'd rather do other things than have sex with me but she goes with the flow anyway.
Don't mean to ramble, just curious what others feel about this. Always thought it was about me just wanting to get laid more but I guess I'm deeper than that....who knew....lol.
Personally, I initiate way more than i have in the past and the frequency is much improved (2-3x per week). I am rarely turned down. However, I can't help but feel something is missing and can't put my finger on it. While I don't get denied, and it appears she does enjoy it after a while (seems to orgasm most times), I still don't feel satisfied. Not once does she initiate on her own and while I respect that she may be trying to improve things and do it to meet my emotional need for sex, I don't feel she desires sex or me for that matter and that is why it just doesn't feel right sometimes. I can see in her face that she'd rather do other things than have sex with me but she goes with the flow anyway.
Don't mean to ramble, just curious what others feel about this. Always thought it was about me just wanting to get laid more but I guess I'm deeper than that....who knew....lol.
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