Recently I've been spending a lot of time thinking about how to broach the subject of the infidelity-caused divorce to our little one.. a 5-year-old. Articles I've found so far are very little help, and I'm not even sure where we might go for proper advice. My concerns:
- Just saying 'Mommy and Daddy are just disagreeing too much and have to split up' sends a message at a young age to give up on relationships when things get hard.
- Saying nothing or very little leaves it wide open to have him blame himself.
- Saying something like 'Mommy did something very bad to Daddy, and we can't be together anymore' is kind of vague enough, and perhaps avoids the issue of giving the idea that you should split up over little things, but apparently also could poison their relationship. Plus, that'd be a pretty hard sell for us to present a united front on.
Anyone have any guidance as to expert ways to handle this matter? Experts who might be consulted? The thought that my W's inconsiderate actions could harm the trust and relationships of our child later is more difficult than finding out myself.
- Just saying 'Mommy and Daddy are just disagreeing too much and have to split up' sends a message at a young age to give up on relationships when things get hard.
- Saying nothing or very little leaves it wide open to have him blame himself.
- Saying something like 'Mommy did something very bad to Daddy, and we can't be together anymore' is kind of vague enough, and perhaps avoids the issue of giving the idea that you should split up over little things, but apparently also could poison their relationship. Plus, that'd be a pretty hard sell for us to present a united front on.
Anyone have any guidance as to expert ways to handle this matter? Experts who might be consulted? The thought that my W's inconsiderate actions could harm the trust and relationships of our child later is more difficult than finding out myself.
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