. . . your biggest emotional needs?
I'm still trying to figure out new and better ways to, uh, "serve" my husband in this way. I really think I have it down as far as sex goes (not that you can't chime in about sex and how it's important to you emotionally) but sometimes I really seem to "miss the boat" on my husband needs emotionally. Yes, we communicate about it frequently, but I've found that hearing a lot of different male voices saying the same thing has really helped with my "getting it" moments in the past.
So what do you most need or desire from your wife when it comes to your emotional health? Are there things you wish you could tell her but don't because it's not "manly"? (That's one barrier I'm trying to break down with my husband. I used to connect my desire to him being a certain way, but I found that actually hurt out intimacy more than it helped.)
Do most of you hide things from your wife that you wish she knew about you emotionally because you don't want to be perceived as "weak," or do you feel like you can be honest with her emotionally? Do you trust her enough to be vulnerable?
I'll give you an example: One of my husband's emotional needs seems to be for me to give him extra time and space to process strong emotions, and I will admit this is a hard one for me. (I want to fix things right away. I want him to always be pleased with me, it's uncomfortable for me when he is processing instead of talking to me. He is happy to talk to me, but he doesn't process emotionally nearly as rapidly as I do, etc.) I've slowly learned to accept this need of his and not be afraid of it. He always comes to me when he's done processing, so we can talk.
Can you be really vulnerable and open here? What are some of your deepest emotional needs, and what is your stance on whether it's possible for your wife (or women in general if that's how you want to talk about it) to meet those needs?
Thanks in advance for temporarily relinquishing your man card. I promise you can have it back!
GI
I'm still trying to figure out new and better ways to, uh, "serve" my husband in this way. I really think I have it down as far as sex goes (not that you can't chime in about sex and how it's important to you emotionally) but sometimes I really seem to "miss the boat" on my husband needs emotionally. Yes, we communicate about it frequently, but I've found that hearing a lot of different male voices saying the same thing has really helped with my "getting it" moments in the past.
So what do you most need or desire from your wife when it comes to your emotional health? Are there things you wish you could tell her but don't because it's not "manly"? (That's one barrier I'm trying to break down with my husband. I used to connect my desire to him being a certain way, but I found that actually hurt out intimacy more than it helped.)
Do most of you hide things from your wife that you wish she knew about you emotionally because you don't want to be perceived as "weak," or do you feel like you can be honest with her emotionally? Do you trust her enough to be vulnerable?
I'll give you an example: One of my husband's emotional needs seems to be for me to give him extra time and space to process strong emotions, and I will admit this is a hard one for me. (I want to fix things right away. I want him to always be pleased with me, it's uncomfortable for me when he is processing instead of talking to me. He is happy to talk to me, but he doesn't process emotionally nearly as rapidly as I do, etc.) I've slowly learned to accept this need of his and not be afraid of it. He always comes to me when he's done processing, so we can talk.
Can you be really vulnerable and open here? What are some of your deepest emotional needs, and what is your stance on whether it's possible for your wife (or women in general if that's how you want to talk about it) to meet those needs?
Thanks in advance for temporarily relinquishing your man card. I promise you can have it back!
GI
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