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I was married for 10 years and have 2 daughters with my ex, 15 and 13 years old.
My new wife and I have been married for 2.5 years and have a 18 month old son.
My daughters come to our house every 2 weeks for the weekend. My ex wife is by no means a good mother. She is not a drug user, or abuser, but she did not teach my daughters the proper ways of life, like how to dress nice and personal hygiene. They are not slobs, but at the ages of 13 and 15, I should not have to hound them to brush their teeth, wear matching outfits, and fold clothes rather than throw them in a pile. This is partially my fault because as they were growing up, and I was still married to their mother, I was away a lot for work. My new wife even had to have the "talk" to them about the monthly cycle and how to handle things. She also has taught them the proper way to act as ladies, how to properly wash their hair, ect. She for the most part has good intentions for my girls.
Anyway, at first, my new wife was accepting and loving to the girls, but as time went on, and especially now that she is the mother of a 18 month old boy, she seems to be very hard on my girls.
My kids are not bad kids, but they do lie, just like their mother(my ex). I think that some of their lies are in attempt to not get yelled at. They seem to be walking on eggshells at times at my house. Understandably, my new wife will not tolerate this. She goes off on yelling tantrums and says all kinds of dirty things to my girls about their mother and their grandparents. She doesn't lie, but she goes too far.(Example, your mother is a WH??E, and was a stripper at the age of 16.) Also (the only reason that you were born was because your mother trapped your father by pregnancy).
As you can tell, my new wife can be verbally abusive when she gets angry. I have never seen such anger and hateful things come from a person. She also goes off on me when she gets angry. Telling me that I am an absent parent and that I ignore the kids. I disagree with that, I am always around and I don't ignore them. I love her, but if I bring this up, it turns in to world war three. Also, divorce may make me homeless. I already pay a large portion of my paycheck as child support to my ex wife. I struggle weekly to get by, and I don't see a way to make it work if I have to pay child support for the new child. Besides, I do love her, but I feel like her anger is pushing me away. It is at the point now that she is threatening to have me do visitations with my girls at an outside place and not allow them to come to my house. I just need outsider advice. Help
I was married for 10 years and have 2 daughters with my ex, 15 and 13 years old.
My new wife and I have been married for 2.5 years and have a 18 month old son.
My daughters come to our house every 2 weeks for the weekend. My ex wife is by no means a good mother. She is not a drug user, or abuser, but she did not teach my daughters the proper ways of life, like how to dress nice and personal hygiene. They are not slobs, but at the ages of 13 and 15, I should not have to hound them to brush their teeth, wear matching outfits, and fold clothes rather than throw them in a pile. This is partially my fault because as they were growing up, and I was still married to their mother, I was away a lot for work. My new wife even had to have the "talk" to them about the monthly cycle and how to handle things. She also has taught them the proper way to act as ladies, how to properly wash their hair, ect. She for the most part has good intentions for my girls.
Anyway, at first, my new wife was accepting and loving to the girls, but as time went on, and especially now that she is the mother of a 18 month old boy, she seems to be very hard on my girls.
My kids are not bad kids, but they do lie, just like their mother(my ex). I think that some of their lies are in attempt to not get yelled at. They seem to be walking on eggshells at times at my house. Understandably, my new wife will not tolerate this. She goes off on yelling tantrums and says all kinds of dirty things to my girls about their mother and their grandparents. She doesn't lie, but she goes too far.(Example, your mother is a WH??E, and was a stripper at the age of 16.) Also (the only reason that you were born was because your mother trapped your father by pregnancy).
As you can tell, my new wife can be verbally abusive when she gets angry. I have never seen such anger and hateful things come from a person. She also goes off on me when she gets angry. Telling me that I am an absent parent and that I ignore the kids. I disagree with that, I am always around and I don't ignore them. I love her, but if I bring this up, it turns in to world war three. Also, divorce may make me homeless. I already pay a large portion of my paycheck as child support to my ex wife. I struggle weekly to get by, and I don't see a way to make it work if I have to pay child support for the new child. Besides, I do love her, but I feel like her anger is pushing me away. It is at the point now that she is threatening to have me do visitations with my girls at an outside place and not allow them to come to my house. I just need outsider advice. Help
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