My wife and I have been married for a little over 3 years. We have 2 kids (3 and 1). Earlier this year I discovered my wife was cheating on me. She had an affair with someone from work and its was a physical affair. They had oral sex and actual sex. It lasted a few months until I discovered it and confronted her.
She immediately stopped the affair and started to try and work on us. She has been trying so hard to earn my trust and make us work. I asked her why she did it and she said it was because of my porn problem we had in our first year of marriage. I was watching porn and she found out and almost divorced because she considers it cheating. She said she just never got over it, even though I ALWAYS asked her if she was and she said yeah that it was fine now.
My wife has NEVER seemed like the cheated type so me and my whole family were shocked when we found out. I told all our family and friends.
She said she would never do it again and so far has allowed me to have access to EVERYTHING. She even lets me follower her and gps track her. My problem lies with even though she has done all this I still want a divorce. I told her from the very beginning I would NEVER allow cheating. I have tried for about 3 months now to make it work and I just can't look past the cheating.
I'm having a hard time divorcing though because we are sperated and when we do hang out and try to have date nights they are amaizng and we are so happy. Then after a couple hours I start getting mad and remembering why I don't want to be with her.
She is making me feel reallt guilty because when I tell her I think I still want to divorce she says that I am giving up and I'm not wiling to fight for what is meant to be. She says "I know what I did was horribly and the worst thing I could do, but I am not going to give up even if you do. I will fight for us till the end." I also always think "well she was able to look past the porn thing and she considered that cheating, so should I looke past this?"
I just don't know what to do. I now feel like that if I divorce I will give up on my marriage and she always says I will regret it and realize that I made a mistake.
I do love her and she is a wonderful mother, I think this REALLY STUPID decision she made is too much for me to look past. I want someone who would NEVER cheat on me and respected me enough to say no if a guy hit on her.
She immediately stopped the affair and started to try and work on us. She has been trying so hard to earn my trust and make us work. I asked her why she did it and she said it was because of my porn problem we had in our first year of marriage. I was watching porn and she found out and almost divorced because she considers it cheating. She said she just never got over it, even though I ALWAYS asked her if she was and she said yeah that it was fine now.
My wife has NEVER seemed like the cheated type so me and my whole family were shocked when we found out. I told all our family and friends.
She said she would never do it again and so far has allowed me to have access to EVERYTHING. She even lets me follower her and gps track her. My problem lies with even though she has done all this I still want a divorce. I told her from the very beginning I would NEVER allow cheating. I have tried for about 3 months now to make it work and I just can't look past the cheating.
I'm having a hard time divorcing though because we are sperated and when we do hang out and try to have date nights they are amaizng and we are so happy. Then after a couple hours I start getting mad and remembering why I don't want to be with her.
She is making me feel reallt guilty because when I tell her I think I still want to divorce she says that I am giving up and I'm not wiling to fight for what is meant to be. She says "I know what I did was horribly and the worst thing I could do, but I am not going to give up even if you do. I will fight for us till the end." I also always think "well she was able to look past the porn thing and she considered that cheating, so should I looke past this?"
I just don't know what to do. I now feel like that if I divorce I will give up on my marriage and she always says I will regret it and realize that I made a mistake.
I do love her and she is a wonderful mother, I think this REALLY STUPID decision she made is too much for me to look past. I want someone who would NEVER cheat on me and respected me enough to say no if a guy hit on her.
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