Everyone's situation is different but I can tell you what seems across the board the same for everyone.
That is if you are having problems marriage counseling can work but you have to find a good one. If one isn't working switch right away to another.
Second , take it 1 day at a time. Problems take a long time to work out.
Third, don't give up easily. After all filing divorce is expensive and grueling from what I hear.
Fourth , put your thoughts on your spouse point of view. Perhaps you are being unreasonable and difficult and not understanding.
Fifth, don't expect much at first. Until he or she feels relaxed again, comfortable , feels it legit and it's going to last it will slowly change.
Sixth, finding out the reason(s) why it's not working to fix the problems. It may be lack of communication, lack of date nights, working too many hours , verbal abuse, not helping out enough with chores or kids, health reasons, substance abuse, and so on.
Seventh, once you are getting along better keep it up. Dont go back to your old ways or the conflict will start all over again.
Eighth, understand over the course of a ltr people change a bit and to go with the changes of times.
Ninth, there are a lot of good suggestions on this site. It's true I've found that women want men not to be indecisive. To be the man and not get walked on by them. They also need their time and time with their girlfriends without a insecure husband that is controlling.
I'm sure I left out a lot but the positive side is there is hope, stay positive , keep smiling, be secure, be confident and don't become a beta full time. Obviously not all relationships are meant to be and infidelity is a deal breaker in my opinion.
That is if you are having problems marriage counseling can work but you have to find a good one. If one isn't working switch right away to another.
Second , take it 1 day at a time. Problems take a long time to work out.
Third, don't give up easily. After all filing divorce is expensive and grueling from what I hear.
Fourth , put your thoughts on your spouse point of view. Perhaps you are being unreasonable and difficult and not understanding.
Fifth, don't expect much at first. Until he or she feels relaxed again, comfortable , feels it legit and it's going to last it will slowly change.
Sixth, finding out the reason(s) why it's not working to fix the problems. It may be lack of communication, lack of date nights, working too many hours , verbal abuse, not helping out enough with chores or kids, health reasons, substance abuse, and so on.
Seventh, once you are getting along better keep it up. Dont go back to your old ways or the conflict will start all over again.
Eighth, understand over the course of a ltr people change a bit and to go with the changes of times.
Ninth, there are a lot of good suggestions on this site. It's true I've found that women want men not to be indecisive. To be the man and not get walked on by them. They also need their time and time with their girlfriends without a insecure husband that is controlling.
I'm sure I left out a lot but the positive side is there is hope, stay positive , keep smiling, be secure, be confident and don't become a beta full time. Obviously not all relationships are meant to be and infidelity is a deal breaker in my opinion.
Put the internet to work for you.
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