| Ok, here is my situation; I have been married for 10yrs. Seven years ago, before having children, my husband and I had a pretty rocky relationship. We weren't really friends, he is a few years younger than I and many disagreements would end in him calling me names and trying to hurt me verbally. I want you to know, I am aware that this was no excuse for my actions. I looked for friendship in a co-worker. He was 10yrs younger than me. We were friends and one night on a business trip, after attending an open bar event, we had sex. I immediately felt horrible!!! It was difficult but we both put it behind us, agree it was a huge mistake and remained friends. I never told my husband, out of fear of loosing him. Approximately 6 months later, my husband and I began to really get along. We went on to adopt 2 children, whom we both love very much!!! My husband and I both have really matured over the last 7 years and our relationship has been re ally strong and loving. Though, throughout the last 7 yrs he has brought up this friendship I had and said how he thought I had maybe cheated on him. I continued to deny it out of fear for loosing my wonderful family. Last week he asked again, he explained how nothing would change between us but he just needed the peace of knowing his instinct was right so long ago. Out of respect for the person he has now become, I wanted him to have peace. I told him what had happened. He was instantly furious, understandably. I told him how much I loved him and how sorry I was, I acknowledged what a stupid mistake it was. He is now goes from telling me how I am his best friend and he loves me to badgering me to the point of me crying. I work long hours and will come home and sleep, he will wake me up telling me what a horrible person I am and calling me names. He told our children one night that he doesn't love me!!!! I had to explain to them that he was just mad about something and didn't mean what he said. I need advice as to what if anything I should do. I want to go back to last week and forget this ever happened, but I know that can't happen. I want to love him forever. I know I would never put myself in that situation again!!! Never make that mistake again!!!! He says he can't trust me, doesn't respect me and only partly loves me. Yet, he hasn't left???? He continues to try and have sex with me. I need to know what the best thing to do for my family is??? | |||
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