Why do seemingly small things throw me into such despair? I've posted my story on here before. Long story short, never had a great marriage, but we were together for nearly 30 years. Three years ago STBXH had an EA with someone at work. Suspecting something was up, I asked him to leave our home. He did. About 3.5 months later after she apparently decided to try to work things out with her H, my STBXH asks to come back home to work on our marriage. I let him, we try MC, but after 16 months I can't do it anymore, and I tell him I want a divorce. Things move quickly after that. House sold, most assets split. Court date coming up on Jan 22 to try to agree on split of retirement accounts. After 15 months of separation, D should have been final by now, but he has ignored my settlement offer, wanting more.
Shortly after we went our separate ways, he started things up again with the OW. From what I heard, things are off and on with them over the next 10 months. Late August 2013, STBXH helps her pack up her stuff and move out of her home and into one STBXH bought in the town she, her H, and her kids live in. One of her sons moved with her. STBXH living elsewhere for the time being.
What's bothering me today? STBXH agreed to let D21 use one of his vehicles while D21's car is in the shop. D21 was supposed to meet STBXH today at the auto shop. Because STBXH lets the OW use his car, he agreed to let D21 use his truck, and said he would drive his motorcycle for a few days. He said he would drive his truck to meet D21, with his motorcycle in the truck bed. Instead he had OW follow him to the body shop. D21 ignored the OW, but this whole thing, minor as it seems, has thrown me for a loop. Does he not care what he does to his kids, even if they aren't "children" anymore? He knows our daughters want nothing to do with her???? And, honestly it hurts me to the core anytime I hear anything about that woman. I don't understand why…. I wish I could forget him and her, but it's not so easy when you've been with someone for nearly 30 years…
Shortly after we went our separate ways, he started things up again with the OW. From what I heard, things are off and on with them over the next 10 months. Late August 2013, STBXH helps her pack up her stuff and move out of her home and into one STBXH bought in the town she, her H, and her kids live in. One of her sons moved with her. STBXH living elsewhere for the time being.
What's bothering me today? STBXH agreed to let D21 use one of his vehicles while D21's car is in the shop. D21 was supposed to meet STBXH today at the auto shop. Because STBXH lets the OW use his car, he agreed to let D21 use his truck, and said he would drive his motorcycle for a few days. He said he would drive his truck to meet D21, with his motorcycle in the truck bed. Instead he had OW follow him to the body shop. D21 ignored the OW, but this whole thing, minor as it seems, has thrown me for a loop. Does he not care what he does to his kids, even if they aren't "children" anymore? He knows our daughters want nothing to do with her???? And, honestly it hurts me to the core anytime I hear anything about that woman. I don't understand why…. I wish I could forget him and her, but it's not so easy when you've been with someone for nearly 30 years…
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