Hi all & thanks in advance. I'm probably delusional about the following scenario, but it'll probably help, just to get it off my chest. I met a woman 3 years ago & we went on a couple of dates. I really liked her but nothing came of it. We stayed in touch & met up every so often for coffee. Around the same time we'd met she was obviously dating other people & subsequently started a relationship with another guy. We became pretty close friends & every time we met, she moaned & groaned about how much of a bad person he was & how they would never last etc. To say i chased her would be an understatement! Even though I myself have been in a relationship for over 2 years, i never stopped thinking about her. Every 6 months i would tell her I couldn't be friends any more because my feelings ran deeper, then a month or two later she would text or i would text. 6 months ago she came to her senses & left the guy. We met up every few weeks for coffee etc & I told her I was unhappy & still had feelings for her. Too be honest i think my availability ruined my chances. I was fixated & totally over did the text messages etc. Now here's the problem..... AM I CLUTCHING AT STRAWS & DELUDING MYSELF? Any runs i had taken at her before were easily rejected with ''i have a boyfriend, you have a girlfriend'' but now it was different. A month ago, albeit after drinking she said she loved me in a text exchange, she followed that up a week later with what seemed like a jealous text about my girlfriend & how she hated to she me with someone i was unhappy with. Well of course like a fool, I opened the flood gates & went totally overboard, told her I loved her & basically started making plans & generally being overbearing. Of course, you know what happens now!! 'not ready for a relationship', lets be friends, i really want to feel the same way as you' etc etc. I asked her if I blew it & she said that the clinginess made her want to run & that she did n't know if the friend status was definitive. Ok, self-esteem destroyed I want to run, problem is she will not let me run. She maintains contact, constantly tries to arrange meet ups etc etc Any thoughts welcome :-)
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