Hi,
I am a new member and i joined because i need support..
I have been in a relationship with this guy for over 3 years now. He said from the beginning that i was the one for him and will marry me. however, he recently spoke to his parents about marrying me and since im divorced his parents do not approve of me (cultural reason- pretty stupid). He keeps asking me to wait for him but i can see that he does not have the guts to convince his family. He even communicates with them indirectly. He says its too hard for him to speak to his dad about this directly due to the lack of communication between them as he grew up. I have given him ultimatums in the past but he always manages to lure me back in. we do not live together.
I know what i want. i want to get out of this "relationship" with him which is mostly through text messages and phone calls. But i cant find the strength in me to let go...to be stern with him. he brushes me off and now he doesnt even respond to any of my comments about him speaking to his parents.
he says he will go ahead and marry me if his parents do not agree at the end of the "day" however he does not know how long he wants to wait for his parents to be convinced. or not.
im in a weak emotional state...i dont want to talk about it with my friends because...they are judgmental. they told me once to leave him and i tried but i went back to him and they dont want me to talk to them about it anymore. i uinderstand that its frustrating for them and upsets them to see me upset but im more upset...and more hurt. and feel pretty shitty about myself for not having the self respect to leave.
what should i do...should i leave him?
I am a new member and i joined because i need support..
I have been in a relationship with this guy for over 3 years now. He said from the beginning that i was the one for him and will marry me. however, he recently spoke to his parents about marrying me and since im divorced his parents do not approve of me (cultural reason- pretty stupid). He keeps asking me to wait for him but i can see that he does not have the guts to convince his family. He even communicates with them indirectly. He says its too hard for him to speak to his dad about this directly due to the lack of communication between them as he grew up. I have given him ultimatums in the past but he always manages to lure me back in. we do not live together.
I know what i want. i want to get out of this "relationship" with him which is mostly through text messages and phone calls. But i cant find the strength in me to let go...to be stern with him. he brushes me off and now he doesnt even respond to any of my comments about him speaking to his parents.
he says he will go ahead and marry me if his parents do not agree at the end of the "day" however he does not know how long he wants to wait for his parents to be convinced. or not.
im in a weak emotional state...i dont want to talk about it with my friends because...they are judgmental. they told me once to leave him and i tried but i went back to him and they dont want me to talk to them about it anymore. i uinderstand that its frustrating for them and upsets them to see me upset but im more upset...and more hurt. and feel pretty shitty about myself for not having the self respect to leave.
what should i do...should i leave him?
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