Hi everyone,
I posted a thread a while back about dealing with my husband who was was deeply depressed, with a major reason for his depression his job situation. He got promoted recently which brought him out of the deep depression, but he still hates his job and complains about it constantly. Also, he is still depressed, just not as bad as before.
He spends most of his time moping around the house, laying on the couch. When I am making dinner, he never offers to help, will only clean the dishes 1-2 times per week. I am the one who walks the dogs 90% percent of the time. This morning it was bitterly cold and I asked if he wouldn't mind walking them since I've been the one out ther in the freezing cold most of the time and he refused. Granted, he doesn't like one of the dogs which is why he doesn't want to walk them, but it's like he didn't even feel the least bit bad about me having to freeze my butt off with -15 wind chill. Then he'll try to cuddle with me and I refuse because I'm so turned off by his selfishness and needisness, and he makes me feel bad for not being affectionate.
I feel like everything is always about him and his needs. He doesn't help me with anything yet I am supposed to feel bad for not wanting to be affectionate with him, and I DO feel bad. I don't think he every feels any kind of empathy for me in any situation. Is that related to depression or is it just selfishness?
I posted a thread a while back about dealing with my husband who was was deeply depressed, with a major reason for his depression his job situation. He got promoted recently which brought him out of the deep depression, but he still hates his job and complains about it constantly. Also, he is still depressed, just not as bad as before.
He spends most of his time moping around the house, laying on the couch. When I am making dinner, he never offers to help, will only clean the dishes 1-2 times per week. I am the one who walks the dogs 90% percent of the time. This morning it was bitterly cold and I asked if he wouldn't mind walking them since I've been the one out ther in the freezing cold most of the time and he refused. Granted, he doesn't like one of the dogs which is why he doesn't want to walk them, but it's like he didn't even feel the least bit bad about me having to freeze my butt off with -15 wind chill. Then he'll try to cuddle with me and I refuse because I'm so turned off by his selfishness and needisness, and he makes me feel bad for not being affectionate.
I feel like everything is always about him and his needs. He doesn't help me with anything yet I am supposed to feel bad for not wanting to be affectionate with him, and I DO feel bad. I don't think he every feels any kind of empathy for me in any situation. Is that related to depression or is it just selfishness?
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