Apologies, this is a long post but you really need the background here!
I was with my ex for 7 years, in which he cheated with strippers, randoms, friends of mine anyone really. i found out about 8 people, no doubt there were more, I only had evidence of 8 so thats all he admitted to. He manipulated me into moving in with him, away from family or any support system and stupidly I fell for it and paid the price. He was lovely at first then used to go out for days at a time, turn off his phone and make excuses when he got back days later. He went off for 5 days once. No sign, his family were furious needless to say. I even caught him once as I was taking a bus journey and pulled up next to his car, with another woman in the passenger seat.. I got off and caught them parked on a side road, smoking. His face when he saw me!! He said she was a uni buddy and they were going to the cinema, I was such an emotional wreck sat this loin rand had nowhere else to go that when I asked him to not go, he told me to go home and that he was taking her anyway as th ey were friends. If I had said anything he would have kicked me out. thats the power he had by making me dependant on him. Thank goodness I was able to pull myself together and leave him.
I found out he was cheating as he left his Facebook on once and I also had his email, so was able to see his password whenever he changed it. I also installed a key logger on his computer after he lied about deleting his online sex profiles. I confronted him every time I found something and always said I knew because he left his facebook on... I just didn't tell him it was only once and he never realised that he wasn't constantly leaving it on. Stupid Ass. Anyway, after finding out from a friend of his, he was cheating AGAIN, I decided enough was enough and I started looking for somewhere else to live. Never told him, so he had no idea that I wasn't as stupid as I looked. He carried on cheating and I kept quiet for years, let him thick he was getting away with it.
Eventually, I found a place and decided to let him know I knew everything and was leaving him, he cried, begged, turned up at my door all times of the night and tried to make me feel that I would not find anyone as good as him. Well I am in a happy relationship, expecting my first baby and starting my degree in Politics, philosophy and Economics (I think I would make an excellent spy of sorts ;)
Sorry it's taken so long to get to the point here but here it is... A mutual friend has told me that he is spreading false rumours about me to his new girlfriend, who is a lovely woman by the way (and getting herself into loads of family problems by being with him as she is asian, he isn't.). Curiosity got the better of me and I checked his Facebook to see what he had been saying. I found messages to numerous women/ girls including he slept with,while with me and is is obvious he is playing her now too. There was an argument on there with his new gf, where he is accusing her of talking to other men and has apparently taken her phone. This is how he got me. I was so focused on proving my innocence that i didn't realise he was manipulating me to cover his own tracks.
I have met this lady and she is lovely, was very civil to me and we got on although I never expect to become friends. She is putting herself on the line here with him and he is cheating on her now too. I would have given anything to not have wasted so much on this waste of space and wish someone had been able to warn me about him. I know it isn't my place to say anything but I can't sit back and watch him ruin another woman's life. I'm fighting the urge to send her his password so she can see for herself. What would you do? Sit back and watch her ruin herself or give her a chance to make a decision??
Thanks guys
I was with my ex for 7 years, in which he cheated with strippers, randoms, friends of mine anyone really. i found out about 8 people, no doubt there were more, I only had evidence of 8 so thats all he admitted to. He manipulated me into moving in with him, away from family or any support system and stupidly I fell for it and paid the price. He was lovely at first then used to go out for days at a time, turn off his phone and make excuses when he got back days later. He went off for 5 days once. No sign, his family were furious needless to say. I even caught him once as I was taking a bus journey and pulled up next to his car, with another woman in the passenger seat.. I got off and caught them parked on a side road, smoking. His face when he saw me!! He said she was a uni buddy and they were going to the cinema, I was such an emotional wreck sat this loin rand had nowhere else to go that when I asked him to not go, he told me to go home and that he was taking her anyway as th ey were friends. If I had said anything he would have kicked me out. thats the power he had by making me dependant on him. Thank goodness I was able to pull myself together and leave him.
I found out he was cheating as he left his Facebook on once and I also had his email, so was able to see his password whenever he changed it. I also installed a key logger on his computer after he lied about deleting his online sex profiles. I confronted him every time I found something and always said I knew because he left his facebook on... I just didn't tell him it was only once and he never realised that he wasn't constantly leaving it on. Stupid Ass. Anyway, after finding out from a friend of his, he was cheating AGAIN, I decided enough was enough and I started looking for somewhere else to live. Never told him, so he had no idea that I wasn't as stupid as I looked. He carried on cheating and I kept quiet for years, let him thick he was getting away with it.
Eventually, I found a place and decided to let him know I knew everything and was leaving him, he cried, begged, turned up at my door all times of the night and tried to make me feel that I would not find anyone as good as him. Well I am in a happy relationship, expecting my first baby and starting my degree in Politics, philosophy and Economics (I think I would make an excellent spy of sorts ;)
Sorry it's taken so long to get to the point here but here it is... A mutual friend has told me that he is spreading false rumours about me to his new girlfriend, who is a lovely woman by the way (and getting herself into loads of family problems by being with him as she is asian, he isn't.). Curiosity got the better of me and I checked his Facebook to see what he had been saying. I found messages to numerous women/ girls including he slept with,while with me and is is obvious he is playing her now too. There was an argument on there with his new gf, where he is accusing her of talking to other men and has apparently taken her phone. This is how he got me. I was so focused on proving my innocence that i didn't realise he was manipulating me to cover his own tracks.
I have met this lady and she is lovely, was very civil to me and we got on although I never expect to become friends. She is putting herself on the line here with him and he is cheating on her now too. I would have given anything to not have wasted so much on this waste of space and wish someone had been able to warn me about him. I know it isn't my place to say anything but I can't sit back and watch him ruin another woman's life. I'm fighting the urge to send her his password so she can see for herself. What would you do? Sit back and watch her ruin herself or give her a chance to make a decision??
Thanks guys
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