My husband and I have been married since October 2012. We got engaged in September 2011. To start this off, we met in January 2011. Our sex life started off in full swing that entire first year. We had intimate relations at least 1-2 times a week.
We decided to move in together before we got married so we would be situated. After we got our apartment in February 2012, things started to change drastically. He didn't want to have sex a lot or none at all. We went from 1-2 times a week to 1-2 times a month if even. It got to the point before we even got married, that I was wondering if I was doing the right thing by marrying him. I thought to myself, "well, if this is what it is going to be like right after we get married, then what's the point?" I would ask him to do things with me and he would get mad and say "maybe later" or "maybe this weekend".
I had found out the password to his computer and noticed all of the porn sites that he visited each day. I'm pretty sure he was getting his jollies off on those instead.
So here we are January 2014. Our sex life is still the same: 1-2 times a month if even. But as of now, we have not had sex since November 2013. So we are going on almost 2 months of not doing anything...
It worries me and makes me sad a lot. I try to ask him if we can do things (just anything) and it ends with him getting mad. I realize sex is not #1 in a marriage, but it is a big part on an intimacy level. I just don't know what to do about this anymore...I'm starting to think that he doesn't even want to be with me on that level anymore. Any advice? Talking to him about it even in a friendly tone doesn't seem to do anything but make it worse.
We decided to move in together before we got married so we would be situated. After we got our apartment in February 2012, things started to change drastically. He didn't want to have sex a lot or none at all. We went from 1-2 times a week to 1-2 times a month if even. It got to the point before we even got married, that I was wondering if I was doing the right thing by marrying him. I thought to myself, "well, if this is what it is going to be like right after we get married, then what's the point?" I would ask him to do things with me and he would get mad and say "maybe later" or "maybe this weekend".
I had found out the password to his computer and noticed all of the porn sites that he visited each day. I'm pretty sure he was getting his jollies off on those instead.
So here we are January 2014. Our sex life is still the same: 1-2 times a month if even. But as of now, we have not had sex since November 2013. So we are going on almost 2 months of not doing anything...
It worries me and makes me sad a lot. I try to ask him if we can do things (just anything) and it ends with him getting mad. I realize sex is not #1 in a marriage, but it is a big part on an intimacy level. I just don't know what to do about this anymore...I'm starting to think that he doesn't even want to be with me on that level anymore. Any advice? Talking to him about it even in a friendly tone doesn't seem to do anything but make it worse.
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