I have a friend who was married for 15 years. For all those years, everyone (including me) suspected he might be gay.
Two years ago, he finally had the courage to admit to his wife and sons and closest friends that he is gay. Initially she was shocked, but there were myriad problems in the marriage for years, and instead of getting nasty and vindictive, his beautiful wife LISTENED to him, accepted what she probably had suspected was true for a long time, and they have forged a lovely family arrangement.
He is a very prominent, successful surgeon. Rather than trashing him and his reputation, she sat down with her kids and explained the truth. TOGETHER they worked out what was probably very difficult for their children to understand.
The divorce was completely amicable. The wife is a very successful professional so she did not try to gouge him and "take him to the cleaners." They worked with a mediator to come up with a fair sum to allow her and her children to maintain their standard of living. Don't get me wrong -- he pays a hefty sum to his ex-wife but everyone is content with the agreement.
Over the years, he and his ex-wife and kids, along with his new partner, have vacationed together many times. For a brief time, they all lived in the same house with no resentment and animosity on her part in his new home while they tried to sell the marital home. Rather than fighting and bitterness, they worked together with a mediator (to keep the lawyers from getting all the money!) They are all good friends, the kids have completely accepted the new partner, and it is one big happy "extended" family.
She is dating someone now, and the four of them often go out and socialize. They all enjoy eachother's company.
Such a beautiful testimony to how things CAN work when people accept TRUTH and stop trying to fight about everything...
Two years ago, he finally had the courage to admit to his wife and sons and closest friends that he is gay. Initially she was shocked, but there were myriad problems in the marriage for years, and instead of getting nasty and vindictive, his beautiful wife LISTENED to him, accepted what she probably had suspected was true for a long time, and they have forged a lovely family arrangement.
He is a very prominent, successful surgeon. Rather than trashing him and his reputation, she sat down with her kids and explained the truth. TOGETHER they worked out what was probably very difficult for their children to understand.
The divorce was completely amicable. The wife is a very successful professional so she did not try to gouge him and "take him to the cleaners." They worked with a mediator to come up with a fair sum to allow her and her children to maintain their standard of living. Don't get me wrong -- he pays a hefty sum to his ex-wife but everyone is content with the agreement.
Over the years, he and his ex-wife and kids, along with his new partner, have vacationed together many times. For a brief time, they all lived in the same house with no resentment and animosity on her part in his new home while they tried to sell the marital home. Rather than fighting and bitterness, they worked together with a mediator (to keep the lawyers from getting all the money!) They are all good friends, the kids have completely accepted the new partner, and it is one big happy "extended" family.
She is dating someone now, and the four of them often go out and socialize. They all enjoy eachother's company.
Such a beautiful testimony to how things CAN work when people accept TRUTH and stop trying to fight about everything...
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