Ladies, how would you have reacted?

Ladies, I have a situation for you that I'd greatly appreciate your views on. I did something special for my wife the other evening, and I'm wondering if her reaction was appropriate for the situation. Background: you are currently enrolled in a full-time 1-year Master's program at a university 30 minutes away. You attend classes every day from 8am until 4pm, with 2 nights a week going to 7 or 8. You have a total of about 20 hours of homework a week. This has been your life for the past 11 months. Your husband has taken care of all household functioning except shopping and you tag-team the laundry (along with the oldest daughter) . This would include his handling everything relating to your 6 and 10 year old daughters, and he securely holds down a 60k a year government job. He has also recently taken you on a 3-day 2-night marriage retreat on the Cascade Mountains, which you returned from less than a week ago, because he wished the two of you to address some intimacy and relationship problems at this seminar. Since your return he has not pressured you to talk about the issues, the relationship, the retreat or tried to initiate sex. You have also been feeling under the weather lately, unable to sleep well because of your coughing and achy body. Tonight you returned home at 7:30 because it was one of your late nights. You'd exchanged a couple of pleasant emails with your husband today, and nothing seemed amiss. You open the front door and find that all the lights are off except the entry light over the cabinet. On the cabinet is a single long-stem rose in a vase with a note that says "The kids are in bed, so come to the bedroom and prepare to be relaxed." You can hear soft music coming from the bedroom and the temp is turned up a few degrees. What would you do? Would you ignore the note to go to the freezer to stick a burrito in the microwave, then go to the kid's room to chat with them for a few minutes, only to go back out to eat your burrito? Would you then, after 30 minutes, go to the bedroom? Would you walk in, see your husband leaning against a dresser wearing shorts and a t-shirt, gesturing to the king-size bed, sans covers but with towels spread out, lights turned down low, your wedding song playing on the radio, and a bottle of massage oil in his hand, only to brush by him on your way to the bathroom without a word? After spending a few minutes on the toilet, brushing, flossing, washing and changing into comfy jammy bottoms and worn out comfy t-shirt, would you come out of the bathroom to find your husband, still in the same spot, with a small smile on his face only to ask "Why is it so hot in here?" If his reply were to wrap his arms around you and start slow dancing, would your reaction be to hold back a little and ask to discuss the emails from earlier that day? If he doesn't answer, but instead tells you that you need to take off your clothes so he can massage you to sleep, no sex expected, would you plead to keep your panties on? After you climb into bed, sans panties, would you lay there quietly as a log, not letting your husband know where you hurt, what feels good, what you want more attention on, even when he asks? Would you go the entire massage, front to back, head to foot, and an hour in length without saying anything or making nary a sound? And, after he is finished, you give him a simple "thank you", put on your clothes and go to sleep? Would you not even mention the massage to him, even though 3 days have passed?

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