People keep saying "just be confident, how the **** do i become confident?

Every time i'm around a girl i can hardly breath from nervousness. I just tell myself to be confident, but it doesn't work. You can't just suddenly be confident, so how do i become confident? I think one problem i have is that i make such a big deal of it. I'm a likeable person when i'm comfortable around someone, but damn i just can't seem to chill the **** out when i'm around a girl.

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