Do women need to feel safe or unsafe to have wild sex?

I've noticed that when a married man posts here about trying to get his wife to experiment more in the bedroom female posters will usually say that he needs to buy her things, talk to her, compliment her before she can become adventurous. However, the same posters will readily admit that adventurous sex is something women will only do when young and in unstable relationships and that married men should expect vanilla sex. So which one is it? Why the hypocrisy? Why should men settle for this?

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