Considering an affair

I am new here. I am in my early 30's and have been together with my husband for 13 years and married for 7. We have 2 beautiful children, 4 and 18 mos. Since our marriage counseling session with our pastor before our wedding day I have been asking that my husband show more affection, connect emotionally with me, make me feel special and wanted and more romantic. He continues over the years to do very few things without my planting the seed or basically emailing him the idea. He is a wonderful person, father, hard worker and very faithful, but our physical intimacy has taken a nose dive because I just do not feel the spark anymore. I have told him this often and we've been to counseling multiple times with a few different therapists which leaves us feeling better and refreshed, but it fades. We argue a few times per week, but this has improved a it because we're kind of separating emotionally, he is now more involved with golf which I dont really m ind and myself with kids and work. I love him, but after years of trying to talk about my needs and basically telling him I am falling out of love or dont have the spark anymore, he continues to tell me "I just dont know what to do and its not me, but I'll try." And really doesnt. There is a man at work who I am very attracted to and I have been fantasizing about an affair with. I am not sure if I'd ever go through with it, but its a huge alarm to me that my marriage is in jeopardy. I want to feel sexy and wanted again and want to feel that rush and lust that I used to share with my husband. Please help!

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