I'm a lousy lover

Why? I've never saw a female orgasm let alone be responsible for one! I had several sexual partners in my life but they aren't important now. My wife of 6 years is important. First few years we just enjoyed each other. Sex started 3 months after the first date. She warned me she's not really the orgasmic type but I disregarded that since she was inexperienced and I was sure that I would get her to places she never even dream existed. :) I believed that with knowing each other and through learning, closeness, trust we would get there so I didn't talk about it for fear she'll be under pressure if she knew that I miss them dearly. When she got pregnant her sexual drive shut down completely. After that cold shower I realized that her orgasms may never gonna happen and that really, really hurt my confidence. I was depressed for days. Well, that was 2 and a half years ago. We had few serious talks about our sex life and my expectations and found out that orgasms are not important to her that much. She wants intimacy and affection and she doesn't miss them that much. She can orgasm when she is alone but didn't since pregnancy. She didn't realize how important they are to me and now after these few talk she promised that she will try to correct this by reading on the internet or a book or something. I feel that I delayed these talks too much in futile hope that everything will be right eventually when we love each other. I'm a wreck. I feel like a complete failure. If I finger her (which she loves) she can be little ticklish. I can't stand that anymore, like she is laughing to me. I really enjoyed giving her oral but she lately admitted she never really liked that which hurt - a lot. She sees that I'm hurt badly by this. Now she tries not to show if I start to tickle her but I know her too well. Now she demands oral telling how she's 'hooked on it and it's my fault' and I just can't. I know it's for my benefit and I appreciate it but it makes things worse for me. I'm pretty sure I'm going to the erectile dysfunction land with this pace and it's not that far off. I really don't know what to do. :(

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