| hi there, am new to these forum site and its like ages i have been trying to find a serious and flexible forum about marriage and other issues conceerning marriage. i hope to be welcomed by all of you as i have many issues to be clarified when it comes to marriage. on this post i need some help advice or clear idea of whats wrong in my or his actions on sex issues....! am mozambican(33), married to a zambian(48) 8 yrs, trhee cute children i am very active sexualy or i wish i was now that am married. i always liked crazy sex, adventure sex, naughty things to do. Got married and my hubby happens to be a lovemaking guy "all" the time. i like lovemaking but i like to F...(excuse my expression). we met and 4 months later we got married, so its like the lovemaking we had at the time was ok cause we were starting. Then the children came one after the other (7,6,5), so there was not much time to think or be aware of the sex life . it happened cause we healthy and needed, but our early wife/hubby/ children got more of our time. Along this time he did show himself as a very conservative person when it comes to sex and general issues of life, but at the time it was ok cause of the "family" and beleave me with 3 cuties with only 1 yr diference its complicated. Now the past 3 years, since the last born is quite independent , and the other much more, i get the chance to enjoy time with him and realize that i have not been having sex the way i like but the way it was comfortable for us cause of the "family" life. we were living in europe and the past 3 yrs we are living in africa and settled. so i decided to reveal the "miss-like-too-much-sex" cause we have more time, children big enough to give us time; thas when he says: -i have changed, -that i have become perverse with sex fantasies(saying i fantasize too much), -that i like too much porn(wich when i ask him to watch together to improve our sex life he denies), -says that i trivialize sex, - says i dont have morals, -says am not respecting him by addressing him agressive on sex matters Sex in my bedroom is missionar position and behind but laid down. Sex happens in a short space of time. while we doing it i can see and feel that his moves are more to his climax rather than "i want to satisfy her". And the fact that i take long to come unless when i masturbate, i never come while having intercourse with him....We did talk about it , we did argue about it , i even told him YES I AM A B...., I LIKE IT DIRTY AND OUR ROMM EVERYTHING SHOULD BE ALLOWED....but none has really matter to him; instead he starts thinking i mighty cheat on him cause i want too much sex!!! my hubby denies sex; my hubby gets out of the room when i masturbate or falls asleep ...very rare he helps me or caresses me while am on it with my self. i have not explored my house...no sex in toillet, no sex in the kitchen, no sex in the car, no sex adventure in friends house toilet ....for me this is madness lately he tells me that he behaves like that cause he wants to miss me and tresure me(appreciated) !!!! like if we do it in the night and then in the morning , its done, no more for the next 3-4 days. he says he is afraid if he does it too much with me he will loose taste of me!!!!!! the other day i told him: you act like a wife and am the crazy sex hubby.... good thing is that we talk about this issues(and he says laughing that am paranoid about sex), we are friends but i simple do not reach him when it comes to sex... if i was paranoid i would have done it or look for it outside our relation wich i havent and dont want to do it....althought the desperation is leading my wishes to it.... sooooooo people....help me ....i really need some insight on this one | |||
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