Boyfriend refuses to wear wedding ring if/when married

Anon as I don't really want to be identified. As the title says, me and my boyfriend got on to chatting about rings (we were talking about the diamond industry and the conversation ended up rolling around to how ridiculously and unnecessarily expensive diamond rings are), and he adamantly tells me that he absolutely refuses to wear any sort of wedding ring if we ever get married in the future. He is a very fashion conscious guy, who never buys anything from the high street, and says he hates the idea of anything being permanently attached to him, and hates jewellery in general, even on girls, never mind on himself, and hates the idea of being forced to wear something just because culturally and symbolically speaking, society think he "should". The thing is, I can understand his reasons, but this has made me feel strangely uncomfortable. To me, if a man doesn't want to wear a wedding ring, it suggests that he is in no way proud to admit that he is married to the woman that he is married to. I think what doesn't help is that he is always telling me how the women that he works with adore him and are always telling him how interesting he is and things - the company in which he works, I should add, also employ people on the basis of their attractiveness. Now I find myself thinking, which people may think is pretty over-dramatic, whether this relationship is for me or not any more. I already had concerns about those women co-workers, and the thought of almost pretending not to be married around these people makes me worry even more. He has a foot fetish and I have caught him both downloading pictures of the feet of girls he knows, and more importantly has at least at one time fancied, and taking pictures of the feet of a girl who he works with. While that is not infidelity as such, it also makes me feel uncomfortable; I mean, I don't think my friends would be happy if their boyfriend was taking pictures/downloading pictures of their friend's boobs/cleavage. This is the same thing to me due to the sexual motivations present in both instances. I can't help but sit here wondering whether a) he is really committed to me and b) whether he is ashamed of being with someone like me and c) whether he is even attracted to me at all. So I guess I'm essentially wondering - how would you feel if your partner refused to wear a ring if you were to get married? & am I being completely unreasonable to feel a little bit concerned/uncomfortable with my boyfriend's comments/intentions?

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