So confused...
Before my H, I always had a lot of guy friends. I was always kind of a tomboy. They treated me like a sister, or as the "mama hen." I did Muay Thai, Jiu Jitsu and grappling. I was into Architecture and wood shop lol. I own a Ninja 500 and a crossbow. I was the girl that got to hear all their female problems, or hear them talk down about women in general. Get the picture? I had girlfriends, too. But only like two. Now, any male friends I have are friends of my husband. The only two male friends I still have are one that I've known since I was 2 and only see when our families get together or with my H. And the other is engaged and lives several states away so we talk once in a while to share what's new.
The issue: Off-roading. When I got married, I owned and still own a Wrangler. During the marriage, my H and I built it up to do some serious off-roading. Lately, when we go on our trips, he's gotten mad because I want to drive more. (I used to let him drive almost all the time). We go with several of his male friends and sometimes they bring their wives or girlfriends. But usually I'm the ONLY woman there that owns a vehicle and drives it.
Today, he had a puss face on in the morning because I decided I wanted to drive the first trails. He started telling me how bad I am at it and how I'm emasculating him. I gave up the wheel so he could drive and he still was kind of in a mood so I left the car and jumped in another car. Later, he came to me, all angry, yelling. I told him to relax, that I'm just trying to have fun and that I'm not going to be around him when he's acting that way.
And then he said this: "You act like your one of the guys, I want you to be my wife."
I said: "What? I am right here. I am your wife and I am right here, trying to enjoy a hobby, with you, my husband."
I got so upset. I told him I couldn't have the conversation with him at the moment, I didn't want to get even more upset or get into it with our friends around. And I walked away.
I don't understand my H! I feel like he's trying to change who I am. What do I do? Am I in the wrong?
Before my H, I always had a lot of guy friends. I was always kind of a tomboy. They treated me like a sister, or as the "mama hen." I did Muay Thai, Jiu Jitsu and grappling. I was into Architecture and wood shop lol. I own a Ninja 500 and a crossbow. I was the girl that got to hear all their female problems, or hear them talk down about women in general. Get the picture? I had girlfriends, too. But only like two. Now, any male friends I have are friends of my husband. The only two male friends I still have are one that I've known since I was 2 and only see when our families get together or with my H. And the other is engaged and lives several states away so we talk once in a while to share what's new.
The issue: Off-roading. When I got married, I owned and still own a Wrangler. During the marriage, my H and I built it up to do some serious off-roading. Lately, when we go on our trips, he's gotten mad because I want to drive more. (I used to let him drive almost all the time). We go with several of his male friends and sometimes they bring their wives or girlfriends. But usually I'm the ONLY woman there that owns a vehicle and drives it.
Today, he had a puss face on in the morning because I decided I wanted to drive the first trails. He started telling me how bad I am at it and how I'm emasculating him. I gave up the wheel so he could drive and he still was kind of in a mood so I left the car and jumped in another car. Later, he came to me, all angry, yelling. I told him to relax, that I'm just trying to have fun and that I'm not going to be around him when he's acting that way.
And then he said this: "You act like your one of the guys, I want you to be my wife."
I said: "What? I am right here. I am your wife and I am right here, trying to enjoy a hobby, with you, my husband."
I got so upset. I told him I couldn't have the conversation with him at the moment, I didn't want to get even more upset or get into it with our friends around. And I walked away.
I don't understand my H! I feel like he's trying to change who I am. What do I do? Am I in the wrong?
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