It has been one year and one month after Dday - I was sitting in the bathtub with my wife and she told me about OM.
My first post was garble, it took me 6 weeks before I started reading TAM and in the following weeks I went through the motions following advice in a daze that I did not understand at the time. Then spent the last year reading and reading many many posts on TAM without posting myself - until now.
Short story - Dday I was told of OM, a driector and big boss at work. She wanted us to still share the same house wilst she went off to sleep over at OM like 3 times a week - and then she did it. So it thus was for about 6 weeks until my friends came to rescue me. One day she went off to OM and a team of friends came over with vans and trailers and loaded everything of value and left the rubbish behind with a bolttle of bubbly and a card from them in the centre of the empty lounge.
Next thing my friends arranged storage for everything, took my phone and sent me across the border to Namibia to an array of pre-arranged farms and friends. Namibia is a vast vast open country with hundreds of miles of open space. So I spent 2 months of NC with STBXW, meeting amazing wonderful new people and grieving my heart out with plenty alone time in the desert.
Got back to find that STBXW ready with divorce papers, she wanted to avoid embarresment (yea I wrote a stinky email to the other directors at her large corporation before I left). So that wast it, 5 months after Dday the divorce was finalised in court - frankly she got nothing.
Then I meet a real awesome GF, all my friends and family like her and I am told not to F it up. Anyways things are great and plenty fun around, we both live outdoor lives on farms and horseback. I have bought a partnership deal into a business and my new career taking off well, spending plenty time concentrating on the new venture.
To get back to the topic - the only thing still connecting me with XWAW is that the car she is driving is still on my name for some practical finacial reason and conditions agreed to in the devorce papers. So I need to re-new the licence of the vehicle in person, and it is now due. Sooooooo I get a pop-up chat from X out of the blue to remind me and suddenly a coffee meeting is suggested. Eishhhhhhhhhh.
So a quick follow-up contact with some shared friends to find out what is cooking, and I was pointed to have a look at her FB page. Oh well from what she is posting it is apparent that POSOM is done with her.
How do I feel ? -- not elated at all. Now she has lost basically everything and has to move in with her sister. When I moved out, part of my grief and anguish was about her losing a lot of her tresured items too. I am done, I hurt allready for her part too. I now just feel like an observer - I have a great new life and future and will fight to protect it.
My first post was garble, it took me 6 weeks before I started reading TAM and in the following weeks I went through the motions following advice in a daze that I did not understand at the time. Then spent the last year reading and reading many many posts on TAM without posting myself - until now.
Short story - Dday I was told of OM, a driector and big boss at work. She wanted us to still share the same house wilst she went off to sleep over at OM like 3 times a week - and then she did it. So it thus was for about 6 weeks until my friends came to rescue me. One day she went off to OM and a team of friends came over with vans and trailers and loaded everything of value and left the rubbish behind with a bolttle of bubbly and a card from them in the centre of the empty lounge.
Next thing my friends arranged storage for everything, took my phone and sent me across the border to Namibia to an array of pre-arranged farms and friends. Namibia is a vast vast open country with hundreds of miles of open space. So I spent 2 months of NC with STBXW, meeting amazing wonderful new people and grieving my heart out with plenty alone time in the desert.
Got back to find that STBXW ready with divorce papers, she wanted to avoid embarresment (yea I wrote a stinky email to the other directors at her large corporation before I left). So that wast it, 5 months after Dday the divorce was finalised in court - frankly she got nothing.
Then I meet a real awesome GF, all my friends and family like her and I am told not to F it up. Anyways things are great and plenty fun around, we both live outdoor lives on farms and horseback. I have bought a partnership deal into a business and my new career taking off well, spending plenty time concentrating on the new venture.
To get back to the topic - the only thing still connecting me with XWAW is that the car she is driving is still on my name for some practical finacial reason and conditions agreed to in the devorce papers. So I need to re-new the licence of the vehicle in person, and it is now due. Sooooooo I get a pop-up chat from X out of the blue to remind me and suddenly a coffee meeting is suggested. Eishhhhhhhhhh.
So a quick follow-up contact with some shared friends to find out what is cooking, and I was pointed to have a look at her FB page. Oh well from what she is posting it is apparent that POSOM is done with her.
How do I feel ? -- not elated at all. Now she has lost basically everything and has to move in with her sister. When I moved out, part of my grief and anguish was about her losing a lot of her tresured items too. I am done, I hurt allready for her part too. I now just feel like an observer - I have a great new life and future and will fight to protect it.
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