H folks,
I am a guy but could do with some advice/perspective please from women
I am a 35 year old happily married guy with one kid. I have been with my wife for 13 years and married for 5. All is good in our marriage. Here is the issue......
Ever since I was a teen I knew that I could be attracted to both genders. I have never actually had an experience with another guy and I have always preferred to keep this side of my sexuality as fantasy. I had relationships with women prior to meeting my wife.
I love my wife very much and I must stress that I have NEVER cheated and I would NEVER cheat on her however I have never spoken to her about the fact that I am able to be attracted to both genders. Up until now it has never worried me as I never saw it as relevant due to the fact that I am 100% committed to out marriage and have no desire to actually be with anyone else.
I read an article recently about a guy in a similar situation and one reader accused him of deceiving his wife by not discussing it with her. This has made me paranoid. I am now wondering if I need to raise a conversation with her regarding this but am terrified that she will misinterpret it as me wanting to cheat or experiment which is SO not the case. I also worry that she will think I am closeted and using her as a cover - I know that this happens but this is not my situation at all. I also worry that I could affect the stanility of our child as I would really hate that.
If i had ever felt the need to cheat or experiment then I would definitely have discussed it with her but this has never happened.
Do you think I should bring it up now and am I being deceitful by not discussing it with her?
I am a guy but could do with some advice/perspective please from women
I am a 35 year old happily married guy with one kid. I have been with my wife for 13 years and married for 5. All is good in our marriage. Here is the issue......
Ever since I was a teen I knew that I could be attracted to both genders. I have never actually had an experience with another guy and I have always preferred to keep this side of my sexuality as fantasy. I had relationships with women prior to meeting my wife.
I love my wife very much and I must stress that I have NEVER cheated and I would NEVER cheat on her however I have never spoken to her about the fact that I am able to be attracted to both genders. Up until now it has never worried me as I never saw it as relevant due to the fact that I am 100% committed to out marriage and have no desire to actually be with anyone else.
I read an article recently about a guy in a similar situation and one reader accused him of deceiving his wife by not discussing it with her. This has made me paranoid. I am now wondering if I need to raise a conversation with her regarding this but am terrified that she will misinterpret it as me wanting to cheat or experiment which is SO not the case. I also worry that she will think I am closeted and using her as a cover - I know that this happens but this is not my situation at all. I also worry that I could affect the stanility of our child as I would really hate that.
If i had ever felt the need to cheat or experiment then I would definitely have discussed it with her but this has never happened.
Do you think I should bring it up now and am I being deceitful by not discussing it with her?
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