Hmm - I have no idea why I'm the first poster - OP's post is below mine, for anyone who is interested. Must be a glitch!
Actually, I have the exact same problem with my boyfriend. He doesn't let it go a week, mind you. So if I say 'I'll just ignore him till he communicates with me first', he will eventually text me. But that text may be at like 11pm... and very sort of, bland. Just a 'Hey :) How are you?' type of thing, rather than a long message. We don't talk on the phone either, since neither of us like it much, and we don't skype/FaceTime that often unless it's a special occasion and we can't be together (like Christmas, Birthdays etc). Phone calls are usually from him when I'm having a studying related break down trying to console me.
So, really, I don't think this is because he's not interested in you. I just think some individuals aren't great communicators in that respect. It doesn't mean he's uninterested - but it's quite difficult because it makes you feel unappreciated/unwanted, and it makes you want to give up.. and if you do give up, then distance will grow between you and he may eventually begin to sway. The best advice I can offer is just keep at it - don't play games. If you want to text him, text him. If you want to call him, call him. Because then you can't blame yourself if things go down-the-drain, type of thing, you know? Also, if it really upsets you, tell him. It used to upset me loads that we didn't speak on the phone at the start of our relationship, when my best friends were always chatting to their boyfriends (I only get to see mine on the weekend and I don't see him at all when I'm at home during vacations for 5 weeks at a time because of work-load, and us having different timetables - he's 2 years older than me so that's tricky.) And I used to bring it up all the time, and he tried changing and calling me every other day, but it just.. it just felt forced.
TL;DR
Basically, I don't think he's necessarily uninterested. I've had similar experiences. I think you should:
1. Not play games - call or text when you want to
2. Tell him how you feel about this
Good luck! :)
Actually, I have the exact same problem with my boyfriend. He doesn't let it go a week, mind you. So if I say 'I'll just ignore him till he communicates with me first', he will eventually text me. But that text may be at like 11pm... and very sort of, bland. Just a 'Hey :) How are you?' type of thing, rather than a long message. We don't talk on the phone either, since neither of us like it much, and we don't skype/FaceTime that often unless it's a special occasion and we can't be together (like Christmas, Birthdays etc). Phone calls are usually from him when I'm having a studying related break down trying to console me.
So, really, I don't think this is because he's not interested in you. I just think some individuals aren't great communicators in that respect. It doesn't mean he's uninterested - but it's quite difficult because it makes you feel unappreciated/unwanted, and it makes you want to give up.. and if you do give up, then distance will grow between you and he may eventually begin to sway. The best advice I can offer is just keep at it - don't play games. If you want to text him, text him. If you want to call him, call him. Because then you can't blame yourself if things go down-the-drain, type of thing, you know? Also, if it really upsets you, tell him. It used to upset me loads that we didn't speak on the phone at the start of our relationship, when my best friends were always chatting to their boyfriends (I only get to see mine on the weekend and I don't see him at all when I'm at home during vacations for 5 weeks at a time because of work-load, and us having different timetables - he's 2 years older than me so that's tricky.) And I used to bring it up all the time, and he tried changing and calling me every other day, but it just.. it just felt forced.
TL;DR
Basically, I don't think he's necessarily uninterested. I've had similar experiences. I think you should:
1. Not play games - call or text when you want to
2. Tell him how you feel about this
Good luck! :)
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