My husband and I have been married for 15 1/2 years. The last 5 years has been really rocky. We are both to blame. 3 months ago my husband got caught having and affair with a co-worker. It was only an emotional affair, but they were planning on trying to find a way to have sex. Just had not found the right spot yet. The husband of the co-worker found the texts. He was not happy as you can imagine. But anyway after a lot of talking, he had me convinced he loved me and was sorry. He wanted to work things out with me. So we started counciling. Only had two sessions, then he just dropped the ball and wouldn't make another appointment. I have put my whole heart into trying to figure out and try everything I know how to show him I love him. He has done nothing but try to figure out how to leave the marriage. He says he has tried and when I ask him what he has done to try, he says I stayed. So I take from that, that I am the only one who is suppose to try and c hange. He can be a very mean spirited person at time, he is always so negative. Nothing is ever good enough for him. My problem is, I truely love him with all my heart and was willing to forgive him for the affair and do what ever I need to do to make him feel loved and want to stay in the marriage. He keeps telling me that he does not want a divorce he says that's the only option he sees. He brought divorce papers home the other night and set them on the counter. He didn't say anything I found them there. I asked him about them and he said he needed help filling them out. I told him I would not help him and he couldn't figure out why I was so upset. The last two days have been a nightmare for me and just don't know where to turn or what to do. I have told him several times this is not what I want. When I tell him that I love him he tells me ya whatever. Any advice would help. Please?
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