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My boyfriend rang me up the other day to break up with me, because he doesn't love me and can't see it going any further because it wouldn't be fair on me. Everything had been fine before, we were both so happy. He'd always been a bit of a commitmentphobe, but we were working through it, he knew I wasn't going to push him into anything.
We'd been having a few problems just after Christmas, but I'd thought we were going to wait till I was back at university with him (which is tomorrow) to sort it out. But then he chose to do it over the phone. I have my final year exams starting on the 14th, which he knows really stress me out. I interrupted after my second year of uni to deal with depression and anxiety, which exam stress makes a lot worse. And he can't see that his timing could have been a bit better...
I mean, I'm totally devastated about the break up, but I understand why he broke up with me. I just wish he'd waited till after my exams, and done it in person. I wish he'd talked to me about it, let me say how I felt, instead of catching me off guard with a phone call.
He knew I'd been having a rubbish Christmas. I'd been in hospital at the start (getting better now), my gran has been ill and we'd been having a lot of family troubles, so my revision hasn't exactly been the best so far. And now this. I've spoken to my tutor, and I'm applying for mitigating circumstances for these exams, I was going to anyway because of my hospital stay.
He's coming round to mine tomorrow evening so we can swap our stuff back. All my friends have told me that he doesn't deserve me etc. and that I am right to be angry with him, but they're all divided on if I should tell him, or take the high road. I really want him to know how much he has hurt me, I mean, we'd been together for a year, and he ended it with a phone call. What do you think I should say to him? Should I be civil and give him his stuff and get him out of my house as quick as possible, or should I let him know exactly how I feel? I feel like I need closure, and I think I want him to acknowledge that when he did it and how he didn't wasn't necessary, that waiting just a few weeks more would have been so much better, and I want him to apologise for it. Does that sound reasonable, or should I just drop it?
Thank you :)
My boyfriend rang me up the other day to break up with me, because he doesn't love me and can't see it going any further because it wouldn't be fair on me. Everything had been fine before, we were both so happy. He'd always been a bit of a commitmentphobe, but we were working through it, he knew I wasn't going to push him into anything.
We'd been having a few problems just after Christmas, but I'd thought we were going to wait till I was back at university with him (which is tomorrow) to sort it out. But then he chose to do it over the phone. I have my final year exams starting on the 14th, which he knows really stress me out. I interrupted after my second year of uni to deal with depression and anxiety, which exam stress makes a lot worse. And he can't see that his timing could have been a bit better...
I mean, I'm totally devastated about the break up, but I understand why he broke up with me. I just wish he'd waited till after my exams, and done it in person. I wish he'd talked to me about it, let me say how I felt, instead of catching me off guard with a phone call.
He knew I'd been having a rubbish Christmas. I'd been in hospital at the start (getting better now), my gran has been ill and we'd been having a lot of family troubles, so my revision hasn't exactly been the best so far. And now this. I've spoken to my tutor, and I'm applying for mitigating circumstances for these exams, I was going to anyway because of my hospital stay.
He's coming round to mine tomorrow evening so we can swap our stuff back. All my friends have told me that he doesn't deserve me etc. and that I am right to be angry with him, but they're all divided on if I should tell him, or take the high road. I really want him to know how much he has hurt me, I mean, we'd been together for a year, and he ended it with a phone call. What do you think I should say to him? Should I be civil and give him his stuff and get him out of my house as quick as possible, or should I let him know exactly how I feel? I feel like I need closure, and I think I want him to acknowledge that when he did it and how he didn't wasn't necessary, that waiting just a few weeks more would have been so much better, and I want him to apologise for it. Does that sound reasonable, or should I just drop it?
Thank you :)
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