So, been with this girl now for a few months. Really into her. She's friendly, flirty, smart and generous. Generally just great to be around and up until now it's been the best relationship I've ever had.
However, we were chatting away the other day and she casually told me how she was propositioned for sex the other day by some guy she has known for years.This guy knows she has a boyfriend and he has a long-term girlfriend of his own. She told him no thanks, she was really enjoying her new relationship at the moment.
I was a little annoyed by the audacity of this guy. What kind of long-term "friend" suggests cheating in such a manner? I asked who this guy was, to which my girlfriend replied that he was someone she had known for many years, who she was at one point really, really into, but who had majorly "messed with her head." This guy was around when my girlfriend was in her last serious relationship, and she had seriously considered having an affair with this guy. She once told me that her old boyfriend used to tell her she wasn't allowed to meet up with male friends who he didn't already know, I used to think he was just an insecure, controlling jerk, but now I know this, maybe he was justified?
So my point is, why does she keep in contact with this guy? Is she gonna turn to him when our honeymoon period is over or after we have an argument of some kind? I don't know her sexual history with this guy, but from my experience, people who are "just friends" don't suggest sleeping together behind their partners' backs.
I was noticeably annoyed when my girlfriend told me this, so in an attempt to make me feel better she said, "if my friend at work knew I turned this guy down for you, she'd know just how in love with you I am." So basically, what she's saying is, if our relationship wasn't as strong as it is currently, she would have had no problem with sleeping with the guy behind my back.
Am I justified in being really, really bothered by this guy and their history together?
However, we were chatting away the other day and she casually told me how she was propositioned for sex the other day by some guy she has known for years.This guy knows she has a boyfriend and he has a long-term girlfriend of his own. She told him no thanks, she was really enjoying her new relationship at the moment.
I was a little annoyed by the audacity of this guy. What kind of long-term "friend" suggests cheating in such a manner? I asked who this guy was, to which my girlfriend replied that he was someone she had known for many years, who she was at one point really, really into, but who had majorly "messed with her head." This guy was around when my girlfriend was in her last serious relationship, and she had seriously considered having an affair with this guy. She once told me that her old boyfriend used to tell her she wasn't allowed to meet up with male friends who he didn't already know, I used to think he was just an insecure, controlling jerk, but now I know this, maybe he was justified?
So my point is, why does she keep in contact with this guy? Is she gonna turn to him when our honeymoon period is over or after we have an argument of some kind? I don't know her sexual history with this guy, but from my experience, people who are "just friends" don't suggest sleeping together behind their partners' backs.
I was noticeably annoyed when my girlfriend told me this, so in an attempt to make me feel better she said, "if my friend at work knew I turned this guy down for you, she'd know just how in love with you I am." So basically, what she's saying is, if our relationship wasn't as strong as it is currently, she would have had no problem with sleeping with the guy behind my back.
Am I justified in being really, really bothered by this guy and their history together?
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