Hello fellow TAM members - I just wanted to update everyone here on my situation and to thank you for your advice and for helping me through my STBXWs affair.
To let everyone know - in March/2012 my wife of 27 years got up and walked out of my life forever to go live with some POSOM. We had 2 sons - 19 and 17 - and while she did not say ILBNILWY she said - when I told her I loved her - "what about me and my feelings?". I never saw her again until this year.
I stumbled on to this site as I was looking for WTH was going on - she NEVER in the time I knew her - behaved like this.
I posted my story - I was told it was an affair more than likely.
I did NOT want to hear it! But it was true.
Then I was told about 180 and no contact - again - counter-intuitive (I mean are you not supposed to fight for your woman?).
Then I was told to do the 180 and go dark - I did so but not consistently - which I believe led to her carrying on longer than expected. But finally deleted ALL her family and friends on fb - thus no source of info for her.
Then I was told to expose expose expose - again counter-intuitive. I was embarrassed. But eventually did what I was told.
As a result of all this - I got an email from my STBXW just before Christmas just randomly talking about Christmas - I thought it was odd to say the least seeing the last time we talked was briefly last summer and before that she said "I am cutting you out of my life".
I knew something was up. Then over the holidays her sister's daughter (my niece through marriage and who I had a close relationship) kept wanting to see me. So I did. She told me she was going to live with my STBXW - I thought that it was odd.
THEN my sons were being especially kind to me. Then me and my son went for coffee yesterday and he said "she obviously knows she made a HUGE mistake" but also added "you must feel free now that you are not together". I saw that he saw what transpired and I know it was because I followed the direction on this site.
It took some time but in life if you live the right way and follow direction - everything falls into place.
Thank you TAM members - and for those going through the pain I was - I am sorry but you will get through it! Take care.
To let everyone know - in March/2012 my wife of 27 years got up and walked out of my life forever to go live with some POSOM. We had 2 sons - 19 and 17 - and while she did not say ILBNILWY she said - when I told her I loved her - "what about me and my feelings?". I never saw her again until this year.
I stumbled on to this site as I was looking for WTH was going on - she NEVER in the time I knew her - behaved like this.
I posted my story - I was told it was an affair more than likely.
I did NOT want to hear it! But it was true.
Then I was told about 180 and no contact - again - counter-intuitive (I mean are you not supposed to fight for your woman?).
Then I was told to do the 180 and go dark - I did so but not consistently - which I believe led to her carrying on longer than expected. But finally deleted ALL her family and friends on fb - thus no source of info for her.
Then I was told to expose expose expose - again counter-intuitive. I was embarrassed. But eventually did what I was told.
As a result of all this - I got an email from my STBXW just before Christmas just randomly talking about Christmas - I thought it was odd to say the least seeing the last time we talked was briefly last summer and before that she said "I am cutting you out of my life".
I knew something was up. Then over the holidays her sister's daughter (my niece through marriage and who I had a close relationship) kept wanting to see me. So I did. She told me she was going to live with my STBXW - I thought that it was odd.
THEN my sons were being especially kind to me. Then me and my son went for coffee yesterday and he said "she obviously knows she made a HUGE mistake" but also added "you must feel free now that you are not together". I saw that he saw what transpired and I know it was because I followed the direction on this site.
It took some time but in life if you live the right way and follow direction - everything falls into place.
Thank you TAM members - and for those going through the pain I was - I am sorry but you will get through it! Take care.
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