Do I dare ask my LD wife for an open relationship? Can this ever work?
So I don't get berated by those of you who look up former threads, here's a brief summary of my history. 50 Y.O. HD man married 27 years, lived blinded to my HD/LD mismatch until 7 months ago when a 33 Y.O. female employee shared her frustrations that her husband was not satisfying her strong sexual appetite. The concept of HD women disoriented me. It brought my repressed sexual frustration to the surface. It opened a Pandora's box. The conversations crossed the boundary of boss/employee and I propositioned my employee. She rejected me. I apologized. She forgot about it. I became obsessed with her.
I had "the talk" with my wife for months, trying to get her to be something she is not. While she has tried to take steps to satisfy me, they are miniscule in my eyes. I have struggled for 7 months coping with the obsession and my waning desires for my wife. She has recently shut down communicating about this topic. I love my wife. I don't desire her. I don't want her to be unhappy. I don't find her attractive. Our lives are intertwined. Divorce is not an option!
I am trying to justify my proposal of an open relationship thinking that just as she does not want me to try to make her something she is not, she is in turn asking me to be something I am not.
While I welcome all feedback, I would love to hear reactions from LD wives if this scenario was proposed of them. How ridiculous is this idea?
So I don't get berated by those of you who look up former threads, here's a brief summary of my history. 50 Y.O. HD man married 27 years, lived blinded to my HD/LD mismatch until 7 months ago when a 33 Y.O. female employee shared her frustrations that her husband was not satisfying her strong sexual appetite. The concept of HD women disoriented me. It brought my repressed sexual frustration to the surface. It opened a Pandora's box. The conversations crossed the boundary of boss/employee and I propositioned my employee. She rejected me. I apologized. She forgot about it. I became obsessed with her.
I had "the talk" with my wife for months, trying to get her to be something she is not. While she has tried to take steps to satisfy me, they are miniscule in my eyes. I have struggled for 7 months coping with the obsession and my waning desires for my wife. She has recently shut down communicating about this topic. I love my wife. I don't desire her. I don't want her to be unhappy. I don't find her attractive. Our lives are intertwined. Divorce is not an option!
I am trying to justify my proposal of an open relationship thinking that just as she does not want me to try to make her something she is not, she is in turn asking me to be something I am not.
While I welcome all feedback, I would love to hear reactions from LD wives if this scenario was proposed of them. How ridiculous is this idea?
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