So after 13 years of marriage, I found out my stbx husband was having an affair (again) and this time he was done and wanted to move on.
We ended up staying in the same house though for a year, living separately. Just recently we finally moved to another state.
My kids are 9 and 12. They know mom and dad are divorcing. My daughter doesn't ask why or quite get it. She's sad and misses her dad but for the most part she's doing good.
My son however, who is 12 going on 13, has asked why this is happening. I'm sure he's heard some of the conversations and fights I've had with his dad, I don't know how much.
I haven't told him about the details on our divorce, like that there was an affair involved.
I did explain that when he's older he'll understand. I told him his dad is on a different path and he doesn't love me anymore and that this is not what I wanted but everything will be ok.
But my son still has moments where he's sad and a bit angry, asking why all over again.
There was one conversation where my son did ask- "does dad like someone else" and I told him "maybe, I don't know" because I really don't know what's going on with the OW.
I'm all about honesty and I want to be truthful with my son so maybe he has a better understanding. Of course I don't bad mouth his father or try to make him sound evil (though my thoughts are different, haha).
Would you tell your kids?
We ended up staying in the same house though for a year, living separately. Just recently we finally moved to another state.
My kids are 9 and 12. They know mom and dad are divorcing. My daughter doesn't ask why or quite get it. She's sad and misses her dad but for the most part she's doing good.
My son however, who is 12 going on 13, has asked why this is happening. I'm sure he's heard some of the conversations and fights I've had with his dad, I don't know how much.
I haven't told him about the details on our divorce, like that there was an affair involved.
I did explain that when he's older he'll understand. I told him his dad is on a different path and he doesn't love me anymore and that this is not what I wanted but everything will be ok.
But my son still has moments where he's sad and a bit angry, asking why all over again.
There was one conversation where my son did ask- "does dad like someone else" and I told him "maybe, I don't know" because I really don't know what's going on with the OW.
I'm all about honesty and I want to be truthful with my son so maybe he has a better understanding. Of course I don't bad mouth his father or try to make him sound evil (though my thoughts are different, haha).
Would you tell your kids?
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