This is my first post,
A little about myself: I am a 50 year old male ,married for 14 years and have 2 children with my wife.I started having problems maintaining a erection during sex. It started out very rarely but has been getting worse. I know its not physical and its all in my head. I feel our sex life is one sided as my wife puts all the pressure of romance and foreplay on my shoulders. I took the time and effort to understand what it is that she needs to get her in the mood. Over time I figured out her body , her preferences and she is able to have multiple orgasms including G-spot and squirting. However she has never took the time nor the ambition to find out mine , hell she hasn't even learned her own body and refuses to even touch herself. Its bothered me for quite some time that she doesn't seem the need or desire to reciprocate these feelings.
So lately sex has become a chore , as long as she is satisfied in that department she thinks everything is fine.I tried to talk to her about this several times but to no avail. A couple of months back it got to the point I wasn't interested in sex and feeling like my needs did not matter. So we had a long talk about what I was feeling and she asked what she could do help me. I told her what my needs are and what I would like for her to do . Well 2 months later nothing has changed , not once did she even try what I had suggested .We have sex 2-3 times a week and she always has orgasms and when she isn't satisfied she begs , guilt's and pleads for more till she gets what she wants. Me on the other hand only orgasm about 50 percent of the time . Always responsible for my own just a hurry up and finish , not even a helping hand!
What hurts the most is that I have always been there for her. Early in our marriage she had a back injury that required several surgeries and was on powerful pain medications for a year. I did everything for her and work full time. She often says I don't know what I would have done back then without you. I am at the point I just don't understand! does she not care , give a crap or is that blind!
I am Hurt , Angry and Resentful!
Where do I go from here?
A little about myself: I am a 50 year old male ,married for 14 years and have 2 children with my wife.I started having problems maintaining a erection during sex. It started out very rarely but has been getting worse. I know its not physical and its all in my head. I feel our sex life is one sided as my wife puts all the pressure of romance and foreplay on my shoulders. I took the time and effort to understand what it is that she needs to get her in the mood. Over time I figured out her body , her preferences and she is able to have multiple orgasms including G-spot and squirting. However she has never took the time nor the ambition to find out mine , hell she hasn't even learned her own body and refuses to even touch herself. Its bothered me for quite some time that she doesn't seem the need or desire to reciprocate these feelings.
So lately sex has become a chore , as long as she is satisfied in that department she thinks everything is fine.I tried to talk to her about this several times but to no avail. A couple of months back it got to the point I wasn't interested in sex and feeling like my needs did not matter. So we had a long talk about what I was feeling and she asked what she could do help me. I told her what my needs are and what I would like for her to do . Well 2 months later nothing has changed , not once did she even try what I had suggested .We have sex 2-3 times a week and she always has orgasms and when she isn't satisfied she begs , guilt's and pleads for more till she gets what she wants. Me on the other hand only orgasm about 50 percent of the time . Always responsible for my own just a hurry up and finish , not even a helping hand!
What hurts the most is that I have always been there for her. Early in our marriage she had a back injury that required several surgeries and was on powerful pain medications for a year. I did everything for her and work full time. She often says I don't know what I would have done back then without you. I am at the point I just don't understand! does she not care , give a crap or is that blind!
I am Hurt , Angry and Resentful!
Where do I go from here?
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