Just read that the national divorce rate for those with a chronic disease like MS or Fibromyalgia is 75%!!!!
On the sites for people who share these diseases they mainly talk about how their divorce was the result of an unsupportive spouse that either did not believe their disease was as bad as they said or simply did not want the extra responsibility.
However, reading for months on this site many of us are in the supporting spouse role and our ill spouse are so altered by their disease many of us are pushed away by them. I for one believe, or did, in the "in sickness and in health", but are we bad people if the disease and drug therapies and general wear and tear turn our spouses into someone we hardly recognize anymore? Is it wrong to consider the spouse you once knew as gone and the new person, someone you don't even like?
All thoughts and insights are welcome, my wife comes home tomorrow from 3 weeks away and I woke up this morning wishing she wasn't....
On the sites for people who share these diseases they mainly talk about how their divorce was the result of an unsupportive spouse that either did not believe their disease was as bad as they said or simply did not want the extra responsibility.
However, reading for months on this site many of us are in the supporting spouse role and our ill spouse are so altered by their disease many of us are pushed away by them. I for one believe, or did, in the "in sickness and in health", but are we bad people if the disease and drug therapies and general wear and tear turn our spouses into someone we hardly recognize anymore? Is it wrong to consider the spouse you once knew as gone and the new person, someone you don't even like?
All thoughts and insights are welcome, my wife comes home tomorrow from 3 weeks away and I woke up this morning wishing she wasn't....
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