Hey guys,
I've tried working this out on my own and asking friends but I give up! I need advice.
So I have a male friend who I've known for years and years. Last year we both broke up with long term partners and began talking. We quickly discovered that we were both suffering from depression (him more than me) at the time and we became each other's "rocks" so to speak. We quickly began talking every day and he became one of my best friends. Fast forward to a year later ... We have spoken pretty much all every day for the past year even though for 8 months of it we have lived hundreds of miles apart. I even went abroad for 4 months and we still spoke. He regularly spoke about how he wants a girlfriend and joked about us being together and told me loved me all the time and told me he found me attractive. But he also talked about his ex a lot and I believe he still loved her until a few months ago. Then this summer he came home and we met up regularly... Aaand I quickly began to develop feelings for him. I decided it was only fair that I tell him and he said he was flatter ed. He said he didn't know if he liked me in that way then decided he didn't and didn't want to get into a relationship as he's moving hundreds of miles away (again). Then we got drunk and kissed. Then we started kissing whenever we met up (sober this time!) and sometimes just cuddling or holding hands or whatever (no sex). He even said how we act like a couple. Now he's moved 5 hours away and he's gone weird ... We still talk every day but nowhere near as much and he gives short answers..he also says he'll call then doesn't. He said he feels lonely in his new place so I thought that was why but I can see he's been online and clearly seen my messages.
Its so odd because he keeps saying he wants me to go visit and has even planned what we can do up there when I do. Also every time I mention other guys he makes negative comments about them like he's jealous. He also told me once after Wed kissed that he's becoming too attached then quickly told me he meant sexually :/ and he told me that I am the only girl he feels comfortable and happy around.
I really don't know what to do. I like him a lot but I mostly just want my best friend back.
Help? :)
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