Hi, short back ground, wife and I been together for 11.5 years married the last 6.5 years. up until 1.5 yrs ago she has always kissed me multiple times a day, random texts saying "i miss you" or "I love you" telling me how much i mean to her, etc.... Over the last 6 years or so her feelings of intimacy have faded, sex became less and less. Sex was the only thing that became less and less, id get rejected all the time. Our relationship except for the intimacy part is 99% perfect she and I agree on that, She has said many times that Im as perfect as it gets. That Im everything shes wanted, its just that desire to be intimate is gone. At this point she pretty much views me as a friend. We had a terrible last year she was on the fence of ending the marriage. She has decided to stay and try to rebuild/grow/gain, whatever word you want to use, etc... She said shes committed to staying around and given it time to see if her feelings change. Problem is (In m y opinion) time is all she said she can give. She is making no conscious effort to be intimate even with baby steps. Her thing is that her actions are dictated by feelings (I get that to a certain extent) that they are not there yet, that it needs to come naturally and on its own, needs to be effortless. Im not saying in anyway we need to force sex, but I think based on the situation we are in, time we've known each, own a house together, etc... that she needs to make some kind of conscious effort. Is it wrong for me to expect her to give simple kisses, saying good night, before leaving for work, coming home, etc, saying I love you, small things like that to help impact her feelings?? Is she right in only given her time??
Please help, Thank you,
D
Please help, Thank you,
D
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