I am in a near 2 year marriage with two young children.
Long story short, I have recently asked my husband to leave, after finding he had tried to flirt with some female friends of his online and going back to hiding everything on his phone and laptop. Earlier this year we went through issues similar to this. Him messaging female friends near all day every day, deleting everything, hiding laptop and phone. He moved out for about 4 days before coming home. My trust was crushed but he helped me by being open with everything. Even recently I found out a few years ago he would wait till I was asleep to get on his phone and message people then lie to me if I woke up.
This time, since him leaving he has tried to chat up lots of women on Facebook and adding everyone he knows on there because he is feeling lonely and unimportant to friends. Today was the last straw though, he flirted with a customer at work, then got her name to talk and add her on Facebook where the flirting continued.
Since leaving he has talked everyday to me. Discussing everything. Being nice but also being sexual. Saying he misses sleeping next to me, having me and just in general that he wouldn't want to do any of these things with anyone else. He says he hates how he feels and he is messed up in his mind and he needs space to sort himself out. He has said to me possibly in the future we could work, but not with how he is now. He has said he would like to still celebrate our anniversary coming up, and to still continue our family Christmas 'rituals' as he enjoys us as a family.
I am trying to be strong, but even when a I asked him to leave I didn't really want him to go. Part of me is sympathetic to him because this is so out of his character and hearing everything he has felt lately. Part of me also tells me just to let him go because it's not worth the pain, like I know he will just do the same in the future.
I can't stand he is seeking other women but still wants to be close with me saying his words to these women are meaningless but his words to me mean a lot, but also likes to remind me we aren't together.
I do not hate him, but I don't want to hurt myself still keeping contact knowing what he is doing.
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Long story short, I have recently asked my husband to leave, after finding he had tried to flirt with some female friends of his online and going back to hiding everything on his phone and laptop. Earlier this year we went through issues similar to this. Him messaging female friends near all day every day, deleting everything, hiding laptop and phone. He moved out for about 4 days before coming home. My trust was crushed but he helped me by being open with everything. Even recently I found out a few years ago he would wait till I was asleep to get on his phone and message people then lie to me if I woke up.
This time, since him leaving he has tried to chat up lots of women on Facebook and adding everyone he knows on there because he is feeling lonely and unimportant to friends. Today was the last straw though, he flirted with a customer at work, then got her name to talk and add her on Facebook where the flirting continued.
Since leaving he has talked everyday to me. Discussing everything. Being nice but also being sexual. Saying he misses sleeping next to me, having me and just in general that he wouldn't want to do any of these things with anyone else. He says he hates how he feels and he is messed up in his mind and he needs space to sort himself out. He has said to me possibly in the future we could work, but not with how he is now. He has said he would like to still celebrate our anniversary coming up, and to still continue our family Christmas 'rituals' as he enjoys us as a family.
I am trying to be strong, but even when a I asked him to leave I didn't really want him to go. Part of me is sympathetic to him because this is so out of his character and hearing everything he has felt lately. Part of me also tells me just to let him go because it's not worth the pain, like I know he will just do the same in the future.
I can't stand he is seeking other women but still wants to be close with me saying his words to these women are meaningless but his words to me mean a lot, but also likes to remind me we aren't together.
I do not hate him, but I don't want to hurt myself still keeping contact knowing what he is doing.
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