In law stresses : vent : input?

First off thanks for reading everyones input is greatly appreciated. DH and I are expecting our 2nd child, with our first my mil wanted to be right there throughout the whole experience. (hospital) I had a csection and within minutes of getting out of OR mil was right there, I didn't get to hold our first child but for a couple of minutes before she took over. The bonding moment that I wanted is now gone forever and it still bothers me today. Mil made rude comments and brought along an overwhelming amount of guests during our stay at the hospital. Fast forward to the present and mil now wants to come and stay with us in our home for 2 months, arriving before my due date and staying there after. I have explained to my DH that I do not want this to happen, I plan to breastfeed and prefer my privacy, my family will not be around so it is not like I feel this way towards just his family. I just want the time and experience of enjoying these moments with DH. I also told him that I do not mind visitors just not the first day at the hospital and that she could stay a couple of days but that months are too overwhelming for me. Though each time I bring this subject up he gets very upset. He says that I am being ungrateful that she is offering to be here and that I don't want her around. So now I feel as though I am either going to be the big witch if I tell everyone that I want my space during this time. Or I am going to have to suck it up and deal with this situation and in the end be miserable. It wouldn't be such a hard decision if my dh would at least respect my wishes or we could come to a compromise, but he doesn't see it my way and it frustrates me. Any advice or your own experiences would be appreciated. :) And again thank you for taking the time to read my post.

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